The document discusses the importance of chastity before marriage. It states that fornication is intrinsically wrong and that developing chastity as a virtue before marriage helps ensure a healthy marriage. It provides several concrete steps for young couples to follow, including avoiding near occasions of sin by spending time together in public places, not being alone while using alcohol, not developing an inappropriate emotional dependency, focusing on contributing to the world together, and avoiding anything that arouses passion such as physical contact or French kissing. Developing chastity and purity before marriage serves as an "apprenticeship in fidelity".
The document discusses the importance of chastity before marriage. It states that fornication is intrinsically wrong and that developing chastity as a virtue before marriage helps ensure a healthy marriage. It provides several concrete steps for young couples to follow, including avoiding near occasions of sin by spending time together in public places, not being alone while using alcohol, not developing an inappropriate emotional dependency, focusing on contributing to the world together, and avoiding anything that arouses passion such as physical contact or French kissing. Developing chastity and purity before marriage serves as an "apprenticeship in fidelity".
The document discusses the importance of chastity before marriage. It states that fornication is intrinsically wrong and that developing chastity as a virtue before marriage helps ensure a healthy marriage. It provides several concrete steps for young couples to follow, including avoiding near occasions of sin by spending time together in public places, not being alone while using alcohol, not developing an inappropriate emotional dependency, focusing on contributing to the world together, and avoiding anything that arouses passion such as physical contact or French kissing. Developing chastity and purity before marriage serves as an "apprenticeship in fidelity".
Church’s teachings forbidding very intimate affairs before marriage.
Fornication is intrinsically wrong.
■ Young people may find themselves in situations of grave temptations. ■ Some yield to temptation, sometimes with pregnancy as result. ■ You cannot have a healthy marriage without chastity. The virtue by which we are in control of our sexual appetite rather than it being in control of us. ■ Chastity is a tough virtue to develop. ■ If it is not in full development before marriage, it is going to be very hard to develop after marriage. ■ Chastity is the “apprenticeship in fidelity”. ■ Consider some concrete steps to follow: ■ Avoid the near occasions of sin. When spending time together, do not spend it on your own. Be together in public like parks, malls and other social settings. In this way, you can avoid some terrible accusations. ■ The next step is an addendum to #1: Given there are some occasions when you are invariably alone together, be very sure they do not occur while using alcohol. ■ St. Thomas said: Through excessive use of alcohol, people willingly and knowingly deprive themselves of the use of reason which enables them to act virtuously and avoid sin ■ ( S. T., II-II, 150, 2). ■ Do not develop an inappropriate emotional dependency on each other. Love quickly degenerates into a sentimental attachment that prevents you from getting to know each other. ■ Focus on making contribution together to the world. Some married couples who succeed in developing this attitude do not even want to take a honeymoon. They want to get on right away with their contribution to the community. ■ Avoiding a sentimental emotional dependency also helps you to see each other with some clarity, both in terms of strengths and weaknesses. You can discern whether you think you could live with the other’s weaknesses, and simultaneously work on your own faults. ■ Alongside the virtue of chastity you can develop that virtue so closely allied to it is the virtue of purity, by which the mind and heart are made clean of lust. ■ Turn away from one’s own passion of physical contact. In black and white: keep your clothes on, your feet on the floor, and no French kissing. Avoid anything that arouses you. ■ If sexual passion can be mastered now, then that passion is at a certain height and it can be mastered for a lifetime. ■ John Paul II’s encyclical Veritatis Splendor notes that…we have to remember the motto, “I’d rather die than violate a moral norm”. This is a good apprenticeship to fidelity.
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