SEXUAL SELF

SEXUAL SELF
Sexual Identity
Determines the sexual concept of
an individual.
The decision to express one’s
sexuality will determine one’s
identity as faced with the future
challenges of life.
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The Unfolding of the ‘Sexual Self’
Puberty brings about physical changes as a
result of sexual maturity through the signals
sent by the brain to the gonads or sex glands.

Sex hormones
Testosterones – Males
Progesterone & Estrogen – Females
 Sex : Biological
Male Reproductive System
Sex : Biological
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Physiological changes:
1. Extreme difficulty and discomfort due to
the surge of hormones.
2. A sense of insecurity as development does
not happen as expected.
3. Self-consciousness caused by the
changing body composition resulting from
‘growth spurt’ gives the individual a sense
of awkwardness at this point.
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4. Changes in digestion and appetite as a result of
hormonal changes influence the metabolism of the
young adult.
5. Changes in body built due to the development of
muscle mass make the males become more
muscular while females suddenly have bigger hips
and breasts which can cause awkwardness and
uncomfortable feelings due to the new body
composition.
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6. The development of primary sexual
characteristics such as the ovaries for the female
and testes for the male which show that the
individual is capable of reproductive functioning.
7. The development of secondary sexual
characteristics resulting from hormonal changes as
the individual sexually matures results in changes
in the growth of body hair as well as changes in
voice quality.
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8. As the transforming individual
continues to physically mature
they develop greater skill and
precision in manipulating their
limbs.
Development
of
Gender Identity
 THE DEVELOPMENT OF GENDER
IDENTITY
Gender Identity
pertainsto the decision of an individual on how the individual wanted to be
treated and viewed by the significant others as feminine or a masculine
individual or a combination of both.
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Sex
 A biological
characteristics based on
the chromosomes of a
female which is ‘XX’ and
the male chromosomes
which is scientifically
termed as ‘XY’.
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Gender
A sociological concept largely
pertains to the feminity and
masculinity of the individual as it
connotes certain social roles and
cultural expectations determined by
social norms.
BETWEEN MAN AND
WOMAN
Values
Men
 Value power, competency, efficiency,
and achievement, and always doing
things to prove themselves and
develop their power skills and sense
of self.
 Defined through ability to achieve
results interested in the news, weather
& sports, more interested in objects
and things rather people and feeling.
 Values
Men
 Fantasize about powerful cars, faster
computers, gadgets, new powerful technology.
 Resist being corrected or being told what to do
 Rarely talks about his problems unless needs
experts advice asking for help when you can do
it yourself is perceived as a sign of weakness.
 When girl continues to be upset it becomes
increasingly difficult for him to listen because
his solution is being rejected and he feels
increasingly useless.
 Values
Women
 Value love, communication, beauty,
relationship.
 More concerned with living together in
harmony, community and loving
cooperation.
 Relationships are more important than work
and technology.
 Communication is primary importance.
 To share their feelings is much more
important than achieving goals and success.
Values
Women
 Talking and relating to one another
is a source of tremendous
fulfillment.
 Relationship-oriented
 Intuitive, anticipate the needs of
others.
 Want to improve things.
 Coping with STRESS
Men
 Become increasingly focused and
withdrawn
 Feels better by solving problems
 When he gets upsets he never talks
about what is bothering him
 would never burden another man
with his problem unless it is
necessary to solve the problem.
 Coping with STRESS
 Becomes very quiet and goes to his private cave
to think about his problem, mulling it over to
find a solution.
 If he can’t find solution does something to forget
his problems.
 Becomes distant, forgetful, unresponsive, and
pre occupied in his relationship.
 Remains stuck in the cave if he can’t find
solution.
 He feels good when he can solve his problem on
his own cave.
Coping with STRESS
Women
 Become increasingly overwhelmed
and emotionally involved
 Feels better by talking about
problems
 Seeks out someone she trusts and
then talks in great detail about
problems.
 When their feelings are shared,
they suddenly feel better.
 Coping with STRESS
Women
 Sharing a problem with one another
is considered a sign of love and
trust, and not a burden.
 Not ashamed of having problems.
 Not immediately concerned about
finding solutions but rather seeks
relief by expressing herself and
being understood.
 May find relief and associates.
Motivation
Men
 when they feel needed
 Feels trusted to do his best to
fulfill his needs and
appreciated
 When in love he is motivated
to be the best he can in order to
serve others.
 Win/lose philosophy
 Motivation
Women
 When they cherished
 Feels cared for and respected.
 Happy when they believe their needs
will be met
A woman’s tendency to be
compulsive relaxes as she
remembers that she is worthy of
love-she doesn’t have to earn it; she
can relax, give less, and receive more
 Language used-
(express feeling differently)
Men
 Take the expressions literally
 Silently thinking about what they
have heard or experienced I don’t
know what to say yet, but I am
thinking about it.
 Abbreviated comments – wants
silent acceptance or space
 Need to withdraw
 Language used-
(express feeling differently)

Women
 Use various superlative,
metaphor, and generalities
 When upset, uses not only
generalities, but is asking for
particular kind of support.
 Need assurance
 Needs for Intimacy
Men
 Getting close, pulling away, getting close
 Need as to pull away before he can get closer
 Pulls away to fulfill his need for independence
or autonomy
 If doesn’t have the opportunity to pull away,
never gets a chance to feel his strong desire to
be close
 When he gets too close and doesn’t pull away
 Increased moodiness
 Irritability
 Passiveness
 defensive
 Needs for Intimacy
Women
A women’s self-esteem arise and falls
like a wave
 When she is not feeling as good about
herself, she is unable to be accepting
and appreciative of her partner.
 When her wave hits bottom, she is
more vulnerable and needs more love.
 Rise and fall in their ability to love
themselves and others
 When down -insecure and demanding
 Kind of love they need
(emotional needs)
Woman Men
 Caring Trust
 Understanding Acceptance
 respect
Appreciation
 devotion
 Validation
Admiration
 Reassurance Approval
Encouragement
 Scoring Points
Woman Men

No matter what how big or Think he scores high with a

small a gift of love is, if woman when he does
scores one point; each gift something very big
has equal value.
Sexuality without Responsibility
The expression of human sexuality is a natural
process. As stated by Abraham Maslow in his
hierarchy of human needs, sex is a basic need. This
urge has to be addressed in a rightful manner to
prevent aggravating the plight of humanity at this
point of time. The unmonitored expression of this
drive can result to the consequences that can further
destroy the life and dignity of every human person
with the possible proliferation of sexually
transmitted diseases due to promiscuity.
Sexually Transmitted diseases (STDs)
according to medical sources communicable
diseases that may be transmitted from one
partner to another either through sexual
activity or unhygienic practices.
 bacteria, yeast and parasites can be cured
by the antibiotics and some other forms of
medications.
 Viruses, as of this time, has not found any
cure yet.
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
A. By BACTERIA
1. Chancroid (Haemophilus ducreyi)
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
2. Chlamydia ( Chlamydia Trachomatis)
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
3. Gonorrhea (Neisseria gonorrhea)
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
4. Granuloma inguinale (Calymmatobacterium
granulomatis)
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
5. Lymphogranuloma venereum (Chlamydia
trachomatis)
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
6. Syphilis (Treponema pallidum)
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
B. Caused By Viruses
1. Genital Herpes (herpes simplex virus)
2. Genital warts (human papillomavirus
virus)
3. Hepatitis B and D
4. HIV/AIDS (human immunodefiency virus
[HIV virus]
5. Molluscum contagiosum
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
5.Molluscum contagiosum
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Cause by Protozoan
1. Trichomoniasis (Trichomonas vaginalis)
Caused Fungi
2. Jock itch (Tenia cruris)
3. Yeast infections (Candida albicans)
Caused by Parasites
4. Pubic lice or crabs (Pediculosis pubis)
5. Scabies (Sarcoptes scabiei)
 PREVENTING STDs?
1. Keep a Monogamous Relationship
2. Practice Abstinence
3. Be Committed
4. Use Caution
5. Undergo Regular Medical Check-ups
6. Be Knowledgeable about the Causes,
Effects, and Prevention of STDs.