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Welcome! We Are Glad You Are Here!
Lesson 12
(DeCano & Cook, 2015)
Summary of the Previous Lesson
• Reviewed the components that are part of the IE skills
• Talked about the need to prioritize the IE goal and that
options of timing and who you are asking are important
• Intensity is the component of how strongly to ask or to
say ”no”
• There are 10 criteria to go through to help us assess the
level of intensity to use. Keep in mind that its not a
perfect formula – thus we make a wise minded
adjustment of plus/minus 1.
• Keep in mind – using your best IE skills does not
guarantee you that you will get what you want or
accomplish your goal – it does increase your chances
Learning Objectives
(Robles, 2012)
Connecting With Others in Meaningful Ways
SOCIAL
SUPPORT
Seek & provide
ROLE CONTRIBUTE
MEANINGFUL
MODELS TO OTHERS
CONNECTIONS
Identify & strive volunteer & acts of
kindness
MENTORING
mentor & mentee
SOCIAL SUPPORT
Social support is the "resources we receive from others”
• Relatives • Co-workers
• Friends • Classmates
• Teammates • Bosses
• Neighbors
SOCIAL SUPPORT
• Love
• People who let us know that they care about, value, and
love us.
SOCIAL SUPPORT
FUNCTIONAL VIEW OF SOCIAL
SUPPORT
What purpose or function* does the social support serve?
Motivating
Establish
Authentic
Relationship
Maintain Restore
Intentionally ESTABLISHING
Positive Relationships with Others O23
Guilt Humiliation
Shame Embarrassment
The Dialectic in Developing Authentic Relationships
Courage to be
Fear or Shame
Vulnerable
MAINTAINING a Relationship Over Time
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5:1
Gets the
job done!!!
RESTORING the Relationship After Conflict,
Misunderstanding or Harm
R3 Reconnect, Repair, & Restore:
Find time to reconnect with the person
Communicate effectively to repair
Letting go of the previous interaction -‘do-over’(fresh start)
1. Establishing
• Remember, the same person can fill multiple categories and you
can have more than one person in each category.
Academically
Professionally
Socially
Emotionally
Other
Group Discussion
What are some other areas in your life you need/have social
support?
Which areas is it easiest for you to find all the types of social
support?