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FINDING A PARTNER:

GUIDING PRINCIPLES
May mga prinsipyo tayo kukunin hindi mismo yun
kanilang kustombre o kultura (culture) Hal. Sabi ni
Abraham kay Eliezer na ilagay ang kanyang kamay
sa pagitan ng kanyang hita at sumumpa!
Sa atin we raise our right hand to swear! Peks
man, cross my heart!
 GENESIS 24
1
Matandang-matanda na noon si Abraham, at
pinagpapalang mabuti ni Yahweh. 2 Sinabi niya sa
pinakamatanda niyang alipin na kanyang katiwala,
“Ilagay mo ang iyong kamay sa pagitan ng aking
mga hita at manumpa ka. 3 Sumumpa ka sa akin sa
pangalan ni Yahweh, ang Diyos ng langit at ng lupa,
na hindi ka rito sa Canaan pipili ng mapapangasawa
ng aking anak na si Isaac. 4 Pumunta ka sa bayan
kong tinubuan, at pumili ka sa aking mga kamag-
anak doon ng mapapangasawa niya.” 5 “Kung ayaw
pong sumama ng mapipili ko, maaari po bang si
Isaac na ang papuntahin doon?” tanong ng alipin.
 GENESIS 24
“Aba, hindi! Huwag mong papupuntahin doon si
6 

Isaac,” tugon ni Abraham. 7 “Nilisan ko ang tahanan ng

aking ama at iniwan ang lupain ng aking mga kamag-
anak sapagkat dito ako pinapunta ni Yahweh, ang
Diyos ng kalangitan. Nangako siyang ibibigay ang
lupaing ito sa aking lahi. Magsusugo siya ng kanyang
anghel na mauuna sa iyo upang tulungan ka sa pagpili
ng mapapangasawa ng aking anak. 8 Ngayon, kung
ayaw sumama ng mapipili mo, wala ka nang
pananagutan sa akin. Ngunit huwag mong papuntahin
doon ang anak ko!” 9 Kaya't inilagay ng alipin ang
kanyang kamay sa pagitan ng hita ng panginoon
niyang si Abraham, at nanumpang susundin ito
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FINDING A PARTNER:

COLLABORATION
 “
FINDING A PARTNER:

PAKIKIPAGTULUNGAN
Hindi lamang si Isaac o si
Rebekah ang naging
bahagi ng kwento ng
kanilang pag-ibig dahil
maraming tao ang
tumulong upang mangyari
ito
 SINU SINO ANG
MGA KALAHOK
PARA MAKAHANAP
NG KATUWANG SI
ISAAC
 Bethuel/Wife
Abraham
Laban
Isaac
Rebekah
GOD

Eliezer
Abraham-parent seeking and
praying
Eliezer-not related but
praying, looking and
counseling
Rebekah
Bethuel at Asawa at Laban
To Find a Godly Mate, One Must Seek the
Counsel of Parents and Godly Mentors
Parents and godly mentors must be
involved
God may not be calling you to allow your
parents or spiritual mentors to pick your
spouse; however, a wise person will keep
them highly involved in the process.
One of the problems with the modern
dating culture is that it is commonly done
apart from godly counsel. The two date by
themselves, often without the benefit of
the parents’ or godly mentors’ knowledge,
wisdom, and insight. Then the two just
show up one day and say, “I’m in love!” or
even worse, “I’m engaged!”
When Isaac is getting
married there is a team effort
between his father (parents),
Eliezer (church), Isaac,
Rebekah and her family and
most of all, God
Abraham and Isaac
Eliezer, not blood related but
treated as part of family
Abraham accepts the fact that his time for making such a
provision is needed-to find a partner for his son
• Abraham is actively involved not only Isaac
• Abraham is careful about the family and background from
whence his son’s wife is to spring
• Abraham recognizes the importance of binding men by a
sense of religious fear and duty to follow the principles of
God
• Abraham’s prudent precautions.
• Both Abraham and his servant regard the commitment in
which they are now engaged as essentially connected with
the covenant of God with Isaac and his heirs. They look
upon the arrangement of this marriage as an important step
in the way of the fulfilment of the covenant. And hence, by
an appeal to the covenant and to its seal, they hallow it.
Read the story of Eliezer in Genesis 24. Pay careful attention to his
actions:
•Accepted his assignment (v. 3, 9)
•Considered other alternatives (v. 5)
•Committed to the master’s instructions (v. 9)
•Made a plan and presented it to God (v. 12-14)
•Asked for guidance (v. 12-14)
•Remained flexible, allowed room for God to work (v. 12-14)
•Watched and waited (v. 21)
•Received God’s answer with thanks (v. 26)
•Refused delay (v. 56)
•Completed the plan (v. 66)
MAN WOMAN
 MAN WOMAN

Abraham Bethuel/Wife
Isaac Laban
Rebekah

Eliezer
 MAN WOMAN

Abraham Bethuel/Wife
Isaac Laban
Rebekah

Eliezer
 GENESIS 24
24 
Sumagot ang babae, “Ako po'y anak ni Bethuel
na anak nina Nahor at Milca. 25 Maluwag po sa
amin at maraming pagkain para sa inyong mga
hayop.” ….. 28 Nagmamadaling umuwi ang dalaga
at isinalaysay ang buong pangyayari sa tahanan
ng kanyang ina. 29 Si Rebeca ay may kapatid na
lalaki na ang pangalan ay Laban…
 GENESIS 24
50
Sumagot ang mag-amang Bethuel at Laban,
“Dahil ang bagay na ito'y mula kay Yahweh,
wala na kaming masasabing anuman. 51 Isama
mo si Rebeca pag-uwi mo upang mapangasawa
ng anak ng iyong panginoon, ayon sa sinabi ni
Yahweh.”
 GENESIS 24
57 
“Kung gayon,” sabi nila, “tawagin natin
si Rebeca at tanungin kung ano ang
kanyang pasya” 58 “Sasama ka na ba sa
taong ito?” tanong nila. “Opo,” tugon
niya. 59 Kaya si Rebeca at ang kanyang
yaya ay pinahintulutan nilang sumama sa
alipin ni Abraham at sa mga kasama nito,
 GENESIS 24
62 
Now Isaac had come from
Beer Lahai Roi, for he was living
in the Negev. 63 He went out to
the field one evening to
meditate
 Bethuel/Wife
Abraham
Laban
Isaac
Rebekah
GOD

Eliezer
Ito sana ang standard ngunit
dahil may mga sitwasyon sa
ating buhay na medyo
complicated but at least this
is the standard
Minsan kasi wala ng
magulang ang babae o lalaki
The events in this chapter involve the faith of Abraham but also the faith
of:
•His servant: He asked for God’s guidance in leading him to Abraham’s
relatives.  He specifically asked God to reveal which girl to choose in the
way she would offer to water his camels at a well (verses 12-21).  He also
faithfully and accurately repeated what God had done and gave glory to
God.  His faithful account to  repeated this to both Rebekah’s family and
later to Isaac (verses 33-49 and then verse 66) in ways that convinced
them of God’s plan.
•His relatives: Bethual (Abraham’s nephew and Rebekah’s father) and
Laban (Abraham’s great-nephew and Rebekah’s brother) in believing the
account of events as shared by Abraham’s servant, being obedient to God’s
will and entrusted Rebekah with him (verses 50-51).
•Rebekah: She recognised God’s hand in this incident and was willing to
leave her family, travel to a strange land and marry Isaac (verses 55-61)
•Isaac: He consented to his father’s choice and married Rebekah.  He loved
Rebekah. (Genesis 24:62-66)
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FINDING A PARTNER:

EXPECTATION
WAITING PERIOD
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FINDING A PARTNER:

PAGHIHINTAY
 GENESIS 24
62 
Now Isaac had come from Beer
Lahai Roi, for he was living in the
Negev. 63 He went out to the field
one evening to meditate
Ellicot’s Commentary:
The Hebrew word is derived from the 3
Jewish forms of prayer!
The meditation here partly refers to
prayer
Psalm 104.34 May my meditation be
pleasing to him
 GENESIS 25
20 
Apatnapung taon na si Isaac nang
mapangasawa niya si Rebeca, anak na
dalaga ni Bethuel, isang Arameong
taga-Mesopotamia. Si Rebeca'y kapatid
ni Laban, isa ring Arameo
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THE WISDOM OF

WAITING
Song ‘Isang Linggo’ng Pag-ibig’
1. To confirm the feelings you have-
many times the love we feel is more of
the emotional aspect only-there must
be an intellectual aspect as well
Ex. There was girl who told me that she
is really in love with her boyfriend
-ilang taon mo na siya kilala? 2 weeks
-san kayo nagkita? Hindi pa nga kasi sa
FB lang
People are confused with love and
dependency needs. What is that?
All of us have needs-need to be loved, to
belong, to be important
May mga tao na lumaki kulang sa
pagmamahal-ex. Un sa broken home-
kahit anu pang gawin natin may kulang
na agad-you are looking for love-but
many times in the wrong place or timing!
Ex. Sa work may lalaki nagpapakita ng
pag care sayo-kung gusto mo ng tulong
sabihin mo lang-binabati ka, pinupuri at
nag message sayo!
Tapos sasabihin mo sa kasama mo-alam
mo in love ako!
 “
You are in love with the
good feelings created
by your needs being
met but you’re not in
love with the person
 “
Spend time in
knowing the person
 “
Spend time in
knowing the person
and the family
The family is a big influence to the
person- values, yun mga kalakaran,
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FINDING A PARTNER:

PERMISSION
 “
FINDING A PARTNER:

PAHINTULOT
 GENESIS 24
24 
Sumagot ang babae, “Ako po'y anak ni Bethuel
na anak nina Nahor at Milca. 25 Maluwag po sa
amin at maraming pagkain para sa inyong mga
hayop.” ….. 28 Nagmamadaling umuwi ang dalaga
at isinalaysay ang buong pangyayari sa tahanan
ng kanyang ina. 29 Si Rebeca ay may kapatid na
lalaki na ang pangalan ay Laban…32 Sumama nga
ang alipin. Pagdating sa bahay, ibinabâ ni Laban
ang karga ng mga kamelyo at pinakain ang mga
hayop.… 33 ….“Sasabihin ko muna ang aking
pakay bago ako kumain.” “Sige, sabihin ninyo,”
sabi ni Laban…
 Rebekah told
her family about
the proposal
 GENESIS 24
37 
Ako po'y pinanumpa ng panginoon kong si
Abraham na hindi ako kukuha sa Canaan ng
mapapangasawa ng anak niyang ito. 38 Dito po
niya ako pinapunta sa mga kamag-anak ng
kanyang mga magulang upang ihanap ng
mapapangasawa ang kanyang anak… 50
Sumagot ang mag-amang Bethuel at Laban,
“Dahil ang bagay na ito'y mula kay Yahweh,
wala na kaming masasabing anuman. 51 Isama
mo si Rebeca pag-uwi mo upang mapangasawa
ng anak ng iyong panginoon, ayon sa sinabi ni
Yahweh.”
Eliezer informs the
parents and family
about the plan or
purpose of the visit
 GENESIS 24
57 
“Kung gayon,” sabi nila, “tawagin natin si
Rebeca at tanungin kung ano ang kanyang pasya”
58 
“Sasama ka na ba sa taong ito?” tanong nila.
“Opo,” tugon niya. 59 Kaya si Rebeca at ang
kanyang yaya ay pinahintulutan nilang sumama
sa alipin ni Abraham at sa mga kasama nito,
60 
matapos basbasan nang ganito: “Ikaw nawa, O
Rebeca ay maging ina ng marami, at sa lunsod ng
kaaway, ang iyong lahi ang magwagi.” 61 Nang
handa na ang lahat, si Rebeca at ang mga utusan
niyang babae ay sumakay sa kamelyo, at umalis
kasunod ng alipin ni Abraham
 Rebekah
consented about
the proposal
 GENESIS 24
50
Sumagot ang mag-amang Bethuel at Laban,
“Dahil ang bagay na ito'y mula kay Yahweh,
wala na kaming masasabing anuman. 51 Isama
mo si Rebeca pag-uwi mo upang mapangasawa
ng anak ng iyong panginoon, ayon sa sinabi ni
Yahweh.”
 When the parents and
family confirm that it was
from the Lord-they
consented
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FINDING A PARTNER:

THE FAMILY GAVE

THEIR BLESSING
 GENESIS 24
67 
Isaac brought her into the
tent of his mother Sarah, and
he married Rebekah. So she
became his wife, and he loved
her