LOVE, INTIMACY AND

RELATIONSHIP
BY: JENNIFER YLAYA
MARICRIS CAMORO
ROBERT STERNBERG
-A PSYCHOLOGIST ASKED ON HIS
PAPER IN 1989 "WHAT DOES IT MEAN
"TO LOVE" SOMEONE? IN WHAT
WAYS DO LOVE DIFFER FROM EACH
OTHER?
 LOVE AS A HUMAN EXPERIENCE

• A HUMAN EXPERINCE DIFFERENTLY DEFINED AND CONCEPTUAL

 LOVE AS A CULTURE UNIVESAL

• LOVE IS CONSTRUCTED AS A CULTURE UNIVERSAL. A CULTURE UNIVERSAL IS

A PHENOMENON EXPERIENCED SIMILARLY BY PEOPLE ACROSS TIMES AND
CULTURE
 LOVE AS A SOCIAL PHENOMENON

• SOCIAL PHENOMENON ARE EVENTS OR EXPERIENCES WHICH ENSUE WITHIN

OUR INTERACTION AND RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER PEOPLE. LOVING
ENTAILS COMMUNICATION THE PROCESS OF GIVING AND RECEIVING
INFORMATION BETWEEN AND AMONG PEOPLE.
 LOVE AS AN EMOTION

• EMOTIONS ARE PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSE THAT WE EVALUATE

PSYCHOLOGICALLY AS WE EXPERIENCE LIFE EVENTS.
• THERE ARE BASICS EMOTIONS SUCH AS LOVE SADNESS, FEAR, DISGUST AND
ANGER AMONG OTHERS.
 LOVE AS NEUROBIOLOGICAL EVENT

• EVERY SPLIT OF A SECOND , INFORMATION IS BEING PASSED ON WITHIN OUR

NERVOUS SYSTEM A CONGLOMERATE OF ORGANS THAT RESPONSIBLE FOR
OUR ABILITY TO PROCESS AND TRANSMIT ESSENTIAL INFORMATION AMONG
OUR NEURONS (NERVE CELLS).
 THEORIZING LOVE

• SINCE LOVE IS RATHER A COMPLEX IDEA, WHICH CAN BE DESCRIBED,

DEFINED AND EXPERIENCED IN MYRAID WAYS, SEVERAL THEORIES AND
FRAMEWORKS OFFER DIVERSE PERSPECTIVE ON HOW IT CAN BE
UNDERSTOOD AND EXPLAINED.
 PSYCHODYNAMIC VIEW IN LOVE

• IN NUTSHELL, THE PSYCHODYNAMIC THEORY POSITS THAT WE HAVE DESIRES

AND MOTIVES FUELED BY OUR LIFE (EROS) AND DEATH (THANATOS) INSTICT.
• FOR INSTANCE , DESIRABLE BEHAVIORS THAT PROMOTE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP
WITH OTHERS MIGHT BE VIEWED AS INFLUENCED BY OUR LIFE INSTINCTS, WHILE
AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR THAT HURT, MANIPULATE OR HARM OURSELVES AND
OTHERS MIGHT BE VIEWED AS INFLUENCED BY OUR DEATHS INSTINCTS.
• FROM PSYCHODYNAMIC VIEW, LOVE CAN BE SEEN AS A MANIFESTATION OF OUR
EROS AND A PLACEMENT OF OUR LIBIDO(LIFE ENERGY) UNTO AN OBJECT (A
THING OR A PERSON TOWARDS WHO WE TRANSFER OUR PSYCHIC ENERGIES TO
EASE PAIN OR ARCHIEVE PLEASURE.
 COLOR WHEEL OF LOVE

• JOHN ALAN LEE(1973), A CANADIAN PSYCHOLOGIST, SUGGESTED THAT THERE

ARE DIFFERENT TYPES OF LOVE.
• THE PRIMARY TYPES ARE: EROS (SEXUALAND ROMANTIC), PHILIA
( FRIENDLY) AND STORAGE (PARENTAL/FILIAL LOVE).
• THE SECONDARY TYPES ARE: PRAGMA (PRACTICE LOVE), AGAPE (UNIVERSAL
LOVE), AND PHILAUTIA (SELF LOVE).
 TRIANGULAR MODEL OF
LOVE

• ONE OF THE MOST POPULAR THEORIES

OF LOVE IS TGE TRIANGULAR MODEL BY
STERNBERG (1986).

• IN THE CONTEXT OF INTERPERSONAL

RELATIONSHIPS, "THERE ARE THREE
COMPONENTS OF LOVE, ACCORDING TO THE
TRIANGULAR THEORY,, NAMELY;

•INTIMACY COMPONENT,
•A PASSION COMPONENT,
•AND A DECISION/COMMITMENT
COMPONENT.
IT PROPOSES THAT LOVE IS COMPOSED OF THREE
DISTINCT BUT INTERRELATED COMPONENTS. THE
TRIANGULAR THEORY ALLOWS FOR EIGHT TYPES
OF LOVE: NON-LOVE, LIKING, INFATUATION,
EMPTY, ROMANTIC, COMPANIONATE, FATUOUS,
AND CONSUMMATE.
 ACCORDING TO STERNBERG(1986) LOVE HAS
INTERLOCKING DIMENTIONs

1. PASSION- IT REFERS TO THE PHYSICAL/

EMOTIONAL ASPECT.
2. INTIMACY-PERTAINS TO THE
PSYCHOLOGICAL/RATIONAL ASPECT.
3. COMMITMENT- PERTAINS TO THE AGENCY
COMPONENTS THAT IS THE CHOICE WE MAKE
WITH REGARDS TO ENGAGING AND
MAINTAINING THE LOVING RELATIONSHIP.
 ROMANTIC AND COMPANIONATE LOVE

ROMANTIC LOVE IS CHARACTERIZED BY INTENSE

PASSION. IT IS AN EMOTIONAL FEELING OF LOVE FOR,
OR A STRONG ATTRACTION TOWARDS ANOTHER PERSON,
AND THE COURTSHIP BEHAVIORS UNDERTAKEN BY AN
INDIVIDUAL TO EXPRESS THOSE OVERALL FEELINGS
AND RESULTANT EMOTIONS.
THIS INDICATES THAT ROMANTIC LOVE CAN BE THE
FOUNDING OF ATTRACTION BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE.
COMPANIONATE LOVE IS AN INTIMATE, NON-
PASSIONATE TYPE OF LOVE THAT IS STRONGER THAN
FRIENDSHIP BECAUSE OF THE ELEMENT OF LONG-
TERM COMMITMENT. "THIS TYPE OF LOVE IS
OBSERVED IN LONG-TERM MARRIAGES WHERE
PASSION IS NO LONGER PRESENT" BUT WHERE A
DEEP AFFECTION AND COMMITMENT REMAIN.
 LOVE LANGUAGES
Our "love language" describes how we receive love from others. They
are: Words of Affirmation - Saying supportive things to your partner.
Acts of Service - Doing helpful things for your partner. Receiving Gifts -
Giving your partner gifts that tell them you were thinking about them.

5 LOVE LANGUAGES

1. WORD OF AFFIRMATION- Verbally express thier thoughts and

feelings of love towards the peiple tgey love.
2.TOUCH- Expresses their love non-verbally through hugs,kisses or
simply tap on the back.
3. TIME- Those whose love language is time tends to value
quality moments with their loved ones.
4. GIFTS- They want to show and recieve affection through
material objects, especially during special occasions.
5. ACTS OF SERVICE- They are much willing to serve the
other person by helping her/him in things they do.
 LOVE AND INTIMATE
RELATIONSHIP
The greek philosopher, Aristotle, has been widely
quoted as reffering to human as social animals. This
means that we sirvive, thrive, and flourish when we are
together such that reating to another human is not only a
sentimental byt also an evolutionary and and a practical
process.
 AQUAINTANCE
It in an intimate relationship start in aquaintanceship. We
meet up through circumstances and first learn about one
another. Crucial at this stage is attraction.
BUILD UP

Some aquaintance build up into deeper relationships.

Frequency of interaction increases. This is the stage when
two persons test thier boundaries. They test the water,
before engaging fully and so commitedly in the
relationship.
 CONSOLIDATION AND
CONTINUATION
This is the third stage ofintimate relationship. This stage is
when people commits to a long-term relationship with one
another, either though a personal agreement (marriage).
DECLINE AND
DETERIORATION
Unfortunately, some intimate partnership are unable to sustain and
maintain thier commitments or attraction. For one, there may be a
change in priorities between the individual couple, such that the
conjoint value or thr partnership is not anymore sufgicient.
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