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Diffusing Aggression
Diffusing Aggression
Diffusing Aggression
9. If the situation escalates and you must defend yourself, the best
Thing to do is run away, if you can’t get away and you are being
Attacked, use these 15 tips to defend yourself.
There is a distinct difference between self-defense and fighting.
self-defense is done purely out of necessity, to protect yourself
and because there is no other choice. Fighting, on the other
hand, is a mutual decision by two people to physically fight,
when other avenues to remedy the situation existed, Whereas
self-defense is legal, it is illegal to fight with someone physically
for another purpose.
1. Yell for help. Many attackers will leave if you attract attention, so
Yell “Fire,” “Call 911,” or “Help.” Knock over a trash can or do
anything else you can to make some noise.
2. Don’t punch, as this can break your fingers. Instead use your fist
like a hammer and come down on the attacker’s head or
collarbone. Or, hit with your palm open, using the heel of your
hand.
3. Use anything you can as a weapon. This could be your purse,
pepper spray if you have it, an ashtray, keys (keep one in between
your fingers when you strike), belt buckle, brief case, hairspray,
book, or bottle.
5. Kick with your shin, or with your foot flat, not with your toes.
6. Use your knee or foot (the botton of your flat foot) to kick the
attacker in the groin.
11.Keep your mouth close with your teeth clenched to protect your
jaw (as opposed to leaving your mouth open)
12. If you are small make yourself smaller by crouching. Avoid facing
a larger opponent head – on, instead use your size to dodge
punches and use your strongest body parts (your elbows, your legs,
your knees) against the attacker’s weakest areas (face, groin, knees
and throat).
13. Push your thumbs into the hollow of the attacker’s neck (below
the Adam’s apple on men).
14. Use your head as a weapon. To do so, quickly bang your head
against their chin or face (this works well if you’re grabbed from
behind).
15. If necessary, use your teeth and bite your attacker (this could
potentially transmit a disease to you, if the attacker has one, but it’s
worth the risk if it saves your life).
DOCUMENTATION OF AGGRESSION
Avoid delay
Be objective
Organize chronologically
1. The art of convincing someone to agree with you, because it is good for them
2. The strategies of Pacing the Aggressor with verbal and nonverbal techniques
First task – Build a bridge of trust with an individual with whom it would appear, at first
glance you have nothing in common
The more trust you develop, the less of a threat you are.
MAINTAIN NEUTRALITY –
DO NOT SAY:
“Come Here!”
“You wouldn’t understand”
“Because these are the rules”
“It’s none of your business:
“What do you want me to do about it?”
“Would you calm down!”
“What’s your problem?”
You never
“You always”
“I’m not going to say this again”
“Why won’t you be reasonable”
“Me”
“My”
“I”
“Mine”
Instead –
Respect
Acknowledgement of the aggressor’s feelings
Validate
DO SAY –
“Let me understand”
“Allow me to help”
“Please tell me more”
“Why”
“What”
“When” “Here’s What I Can Do”
COMMUNICATE OPENNESS AND NOT RETALIATION WITH YOUR BODY
7% - WORDS
38% - COMMUNICATION
POSITIONING
MAKING PARTNERS
CYCLE BREATHING
SPLIT-SECOND PAUSE
SHERMAN TANK
SNIPER
EXPLODER
COMPLAINER
NEGATIVST
CLAM
BULLDOZER
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