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Pji - Go - Psji - Consent
Pji - Go - Psji - Consent
Pji - Go - Psji - Consent
The knowledge gained will teach students how to create structures to protect members of the church.
Activities and scenarios will be used to help students fully understand the class.
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TOPIC 1- Consent
What is Consent?
Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in an activity.
Consent is clearly and 'freely' communicated. It could be verbal, non-
verbal or written. Therefore, in the church setting, consent can help
both you and the person you interact with understand and respect each
other’s boundaries. Consent can also be valid and invalid.
• Valid Consent:
1. Must be voluntarily given by the person.
2. The person giving consent must have the mental capacity to consent.
3. The person giving consent must be properly informed.
• Invalid Consent:
1. Consent that is given by individuals who are underage, intoxicated, or incapacitated by drugs or alcohol,
asleep or unconscious.
2. Consent that is given to an activity under duress (pressure of intimidation) or threat.
3. Unequal power dynamics - In this case, a person may have more social, financial, and/or institutional
power than the other person and will dominate decision-making or assert power in ways that
disadvantage other partners, e.g., leader of a unit and a member or Pastor and a member, etc.
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Consent is about communication. It should happen in every instance for every type of activity.
Consenting to one activity on one occasion does not mean someone gives consent for other activities or
the same activity on other occasions. Also, the consent to begin an activity can be withdrawn at any
given time, therefore one should always pay attention to the word ‘yes’ or ‘no’ and even non-verbal
cues as well while participating in an activity with a person.
Consent is not a style of clothes, age, environment or behaviour. It is an agreement and must be
properly and freely gained.
Therefore, as an individual or Christian leader who interacts with people daily and within the church
setting, you should do the following while obtaining consent:
(1) describe the proposed intervention in advent you want to pray with them, lay hands on them,
conduct counselling, etc.).
(2) emphasise the person's role in decision-making.
(3) discuss all alternatives to the proposed intervention to present an individual with all available
choices (e.g., group counselling in place of personal counselling).
(4) discuss the risks of the proposed intervention, if any.
Activity 1a
Please list 5 possible activities as an individual or as a Christian leader that may require the consent of
the participating person and discuss alternatives. 05
Enthusiastic Consent
Enthusiastic consent focuses on a positive expression of consent. Simply put,
enthusiastic consent means looking for the presence of a “yes” rather than the
absence of a “no.” Enthusiastic consent can be expressed verbally or through
nonverbal cues, such as positive body language like smiling, maintaining eye
contact, and nodding. These cues alone do not necessarily represent consent,
but they are additional details that may reflect consent. It is necessary,
however, to still seek verbal confirmation. The important part of consent,
enthusiastic or otherwise, is checking in with a person regularly to make sure
that they are still on the same page, as there are situations where your body
might react one way even when you are not consenting to the activity.
To affirm consent, you can do the following:
• Ask questions such as “is this okay?”
• Confirm that there is reciprocal interest before initiating any physical touch.
• Provide positive feedback when you’re comfortable with an activity. 06
Topic 2 - Boundaries
In this context, boundaries are the limits that allow for a safe connection in the minister-congregation
relationship based on the member’s needs.
Boundaries in our lives are culturally and socially determined and include spiritual, financial, physical,
emotional, language, sexual, etc. limits.
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ
is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Saviour."
Ephesians 5: 22-23
He read it out loud and I knew it was going to be another normal evening. I had spoken with my Pastor
but I was asked to stay strong and committed to my marriage. I entered the room carrying our 4th
child, she would have been my shield but she was asleep so I had to put her to bed.
As I walked in, my Husband looked at me and shook his head, ‘stubborn woman, how long will you
keep up this facade of being a dutiful wife? You won’t obey me and you think God will bless these bible
classes that you go to?’
He grabbed me and pushed me on to the bed. I said no and that I really needed some rest but he
quoted the verse once again and I kept quiet, so the neighbours wouldn't hear us argue again. I would
lead praises tomorrow and I wanted God to hear them, so I let go, and he had his way with me.
The verse above has been literally taken by abusers to harm people and trap them in
unhappy marriages and constant spousal rape. Yes, there is such a thing as spousal rape. It
involves a spouse forcing a husband or wife to have sex in the face of no. NOTE: In the FCT
and other states that have adopted the Violence Against Persons Prohibition Act, it is rape
and amounts to a criminal act.
We as the church leaders must do better. In the case of this verse, we must understand the
responsibility of men to lovingly and sacrificially care for their wives, actions that will then
cause their wives to willingly submit to a husband’s care, leadership and loving sacrifice.
Ministers should take note to ensure that it is important to understand that we cannot
support violation of consent, boundaries or domestic violence in any form- be it spiritual,
emotional or physical in our churches.
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Managing Boundaries
Management of boundaries, especially when it comes to physical touch of people, has been subject to
numerous conversations because people differ in their ideas and experiences of boundaries.
Yet, the reason for this conversation is the fact that boundaries can be managed.
Yes, such activities, e.g., laying of hands while praying/imparting, are arguably not harmful, yet they can
easily be abused, with good intentions becoming misunderstood especially when they occur with a
certain person, at a certain time in an environment and without consent.
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Guidelines on Physical Touching
The touches described above can differ for people. Even when their body language may serve as an
indication of what is good, bad or confusing for them, it may still be a herculean task to detect which is best
for an individual. This is why within the church, we must ensure that appropriate boundaries are recreated
for everyone by outlining guidelines that can be added to the ‘Code of Conduct’ of the church.
The above are not intended to discourage healthy/safe touch, as touch is part of being human. They
are guidelines to help leaders stay within the bounds of a church’s Code of Conduct, to 14
appropriately touch those under their care for pastoral, medical, instructional, and safety reasons.
Assignment
Activity 2a
List 5 examples of violation of Boundaries
Activity 2b
Discuss 5 cases of touch that can be generally misunderstood within the church context. Do not be
deterred by the fact that such misunderstanding comes from a member.
Activity 2c
Come up with guidelines that help newly ordained pastors navigate the waters of safe interaction with
different genders (male or female).
Assignment
Read up and look at guidelines that help interactions between an adult and a child within the youth
ministry context.
(Please email all assignment responses to gokoluko@pathfindersji.org, as your responses will be part of
your continuous assessment.)
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Case Study 2
Please read carefully.
Pastor Dennis is a dedicated pastor and the congregation is highly pleased with his pastoral care.
He is a jovial pastor who loves to hug people, male or female.
On a Sunday evening while closing for the day, Pastor Dennis encounters a crying female member, one
Miss A. who complains about the difficulties that she is experiencing with her father who disapproves
of her choice of husband. Her father is currently lodged at a hotel and Pastor Dennis, with is
unaccompanied, offers to take her to see her father.
On arrival, Miss A. breaks down once more in tears and Pastor Dennis hugs her to offer some comfort,
just as her father walks into the parking lot and sees them. Miss A .’s father begins to scream at Pastor
Dennis, causing a scene while asking him why he is hugging his daughter.
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Topic 3
Organisational Structures that Can Help
Uphold Safe Interactions in the Church
An organisation's structure is based on its purpose and how it carries that out. Structure develops a way
for a group to organise its activities to pursue its purpose. Your church's organisation and structure
should also seek to provide an effective and efficient way within groups for your church to safely
interact with members and establish healthy boundaries.
Such ways can be communicated to the members via the preparation of guidelines, strategies, or the
establishment of departments.
We will look at documents and departments that can be added to a church’s organisational structure to
improve or safeguard interactions.
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Code of Conduct (Document)
A Code of Conduct serves not only as a set of internal guidelines for the employees within the Church to
follow but also as an external statement of the church’s values and commitments, linking them with
standards of professional conduct when it comes to the behaviour of church employees.
Within such a document, there should be established rules and well-drawn-up guidelines on appropriate
touch, such as outlined in Topic 2.
Is much time a church staff member spends alone with a parishioner important?
Can ministers and elders visit opposite-gender church members at the member’s home with no
apparent risk?
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Approval for Ministry (Strategy)
The local church board is responsible for any activities that take place in the name of the church. For
this reason, before commencing an event or recruiting individuals for any church event, there are
some elements to consider which include:
· Leader being recruited, screened, and selected
· Supervision structure for ministry and activities being arranged
· The proper and safe activities being selected
· All activities are monitored and reviewed with a proper feedback mechanism in place
· Complaints or allegations of abuse and misconduct are addressed according to good practice or
policies or reported to the Legal Department.
This department can also serve as a place where grievances and allegations of abuse and misconduct
(including child protection and sexual harassment) are properly treated or referred to organizations
best suited to handle the issue.
This department can also oversee empowering members and leaders to protect themselves,
encouraging people to trust their feelings and to speak up when they feel unsafe or at risk. (This will
include communicating with children and parents about your response to complaint processes.)
The church also needs to be a place where people can be trusted with confidential information.
However, it should never be a place where vulnerable adults are pressured to keep secrets to protect a
leader’s reputation.
A functional Legal Department can conduct a transparent process for reporting concerns.
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Use of Electronic Communication (Strategy)
In light of the evolving world of social media, interactions and relationships can form over the
telephone, email and social networking sites such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and SMS. This has
become a part of everyday life for many people in our ministry units. As leaders, we must consider
how we can use this form of communication appropriately.
We need to be mindful that electronic communication can also be used to test or violate boundaries
or even as a platform to foster relationships to prey on those who are vulnerable. Therefore, there
are a few things we need to ensure that are in place:
that all online communications between leaders and young people are visible to other team
members (not personal communications).
phone numbers of members (adults or minors) are not given out to people without consent.
As places offering ministry to vulnerable people, churches must be transparent in their motives and
actions.
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