Anger Management

َ ‫اس َوهَّللا ُ ُي ِحبُّ ْالمُحْ ِس ِن‬

‫ين‬ َ ‫ْظ َو ْال َعا ِف‬
ِ ‫ين َع ِن ال َّن‬ َ ‫ين ْال َغي‬ ِ ‫َو ْال َك‬
َ ‫اظ ِم‬
“THOSE WHO CONTROL THEIR ANGER AND
ARE FORGIVING TOWARD MANKIND.
VERILY, ALLAH LOVES
THOSE WHO DO GOOD”

(AAL IMRAN: 134)

 Anger as an Emotion

● Not a negative emotion in and of itself

● Human Rights/Dignity: Normal and Healthy Anger

● Courage: Positive and Controlled Anger

● Rage: Negative Anger

 Quranic verses regarding Anger

● “Those who control/ drink their anger (ghaydh)” (aal

Imran: 134)
َ ‫اس َوهَّللا ُ ُيحِبُّ ْالمُحْ ِس ِن‬
● ‫ين‬ َ ‫ْظ َو ْال َعا ِف‬
ِ ‫ين َع ِن ال َّن‬ َ ‫ين ْال َغي‬ ِ ‫َو ْال َك‬
َ ‫اظ ِم‬

● “When they are angry (ghadab), they forgive” (Ash-

Shuraa: 37)
ِ ‫َوِإ َذا َما َغ‬
َ ‫ضبُوا ُه ْم َي ْغ ِف‬
● ‫رُون‬

Note: Difference between ghaydh and ghadab

 Ahadith regarding Anger

● A man asked the Prophet, “Advise me.” Prophet (s.a.w) said, “Do
not become angry.” Three times

● Someone asked, “What is the worst thing one can receive from
Allah?” The Prophet responded, “His Wrath.” Then, the man
asked, “How do we avoid it?” The Prophet said, “Do not become
angry.”
● “Anger is from Shaitan, and Shaitan is made from
the fire.”

● “Verily, anger ruins iman just as aloe ruins honey.”

● “Strength is not throwing someone to the ground,

but strong is that person who can control his nafs
when he is angry.”
● Whoever curbs his anger, while being able to act,
Allah will fill his heart with certainty of faith.
 Causes of Anger

● Self-Love/Pride (Ujub & Takabbur)

● Teasing and Mocking
● Criticism
● Desire/ Hirs
● Envy/ Hasad
 Signs and Symptoms of Anger

● Physical Signs
● Not talking
● Not looking
● Backbiting/ ghibat
● Telling the secrets of the other
● Malice/Spite/ Keena
● Fighting/ Verbally or Physically
 Gender Differences

●Expression
●Revenge
●Threats
 Active Remedies

Short Term:
● To be quiet
● Change location/topic/position
● Do wudu and pray

Long Term:
● Diet Control
● Journal
● No Grudges
● Sleep Management
 Verbal Remedies

● Say ta’awudh

● Say “La hawla wa la quwata illa b’Illah”

● Say durood

● Become from amongst Muhsineen.

 Mental Remedy

● To ponder upon the Anger and Mercy of Allah

● Why should I create enemies?
● Reward in Akhirah
● Allah’s Will
● Shaytan is palying with me
 Husband & Wife

●The Blame Game

●Effective Communication
●Positive Thinking
●Compromise
●Understanding your Partner’s Stress Reaction
 Benefits of Anger Control

● Whoever curbs his anger, while being able to act,

Allah will fill his heart with certainty of faith.
● Allah will put iman and sukun in the heart
● The best thing to swallow in the eyes of Allah is
Anger (hadith)
● That person will be called out on the Day of
Judgment and granted an early entrance to Jannah
(hadith)
● Allah will stop His punishment from reaching that
person on the Day of Judgment (hadith)