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How To Handle Difficult Customers
How To Handle Difficult Customers
Aikido •
redirecting energy
Goal is for
practitioner to
What it is and how it can
defend self while
work for you
protecting attacker
from injury
Aikido Demonstrations
What difficult customers want
1. Their problem
solved
2. Helpfulness on
your part
3. To feel they have
choices
4. Acknowledgement
Strategically
Calm Down the
Attack
An Akidoist strategically
calms down the attack
“Clearly you’re upset. I
want you to know that
getting to the bottom of
this is just as important
to us as it is to you.”
Psychology of Customer
Anger
1. Anger precludes rationality
2. Anger must be acknowledged
3. Anger diffusion results in a lesser
payout
4. Ventilation is crucial
Strategically Encouraging
Calm
• Use a calm tone and non-
inflammatory words
• Speak slowly
• Avoid escalating your voice
• Never threaten the customer with
inflammatory statements like: “If you don’t
calm down, I can’t help you.”
Strategically Encouraging
Calm
• Express empathy
– Not to be confused with sympathy
– “I realize this whole thing must be
frustrating for you.”
Strategically Encouraging
Calm
• Help customers feel they have
choices
– Very important for customers to feel they
have some control over the outcomes
– Give them options and let them make
choices, even small ones
– Reducing choices and removing
privileges tends to encourage aggression
Strategically Encouraging
Calm
• Let customer know their feelings are
important
– Natural calming mechanism
– “Thank you for taking the time to let us
know about this. We appreciate the
opportunity to clarify what we think has
happened here.”
Strategically Encouraging
Calm
• Don’t inadvertently encourage hostile
behavior
– Saying, “This is all I can do.”
– Rolling your eyes
– Folded arms
– Looking away
– Saying, “What do you expect me to do.”
– Walking away from a hostile customer
Adapt
Adopt
Apply
Never Meet
Force with
Force
Aikido never meets
force with force
Never respond
defensively or with a
counter attack
What your customer is counting on…