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Communication Styles
Communication Styles
• ASSERTIVE
• PASSIVE
• AGGRESSIVE
• PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE
• SUBMISSIVE
• MANIPULATIVE
THE ASSERTIVE STYLE
• ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION IS BORN OF HIGH SELF-ESTEEM.
THEM JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE WANTS OR NEEDS SOMETHING FROM US.
Asking directly for needs to be met, while accepting Facial expression – good eye contact
the possibility of rejection
Accepting compliments Spatial position – in control, respectful of others
Language
o Achieving goals without hurting others o Voice – medium pitch and speed and volume
o Protective of own rights and respectful of others' o Posture – open posture, symmetrical balance, tall,
rights relaxed, no fidgeting
o Socially and emotionally expressive o Gestures – even, rounded, expansive
o Making your own choices and taking responsibility o Facial expression – good eye contact
for them
o Spatial position – in control, respectful of others
o Asking directly for needs to be met, while accepting
the possibility of rejection
o Accepting compliments
Language People on the Receiving end Feel
o "Please would you turn the volume down? I am o They can take the person at their word
really struggling to concentrate on my studies.“
o They know where they stand with the person
o "I am so sorry, but I won't be able to help you with
your project this afternoon, as I have a dentist o The person can cope with justified criticism and
appointment." accept compliments
o The person can look after themselves
o Respect for the person
THE AGGRESSIVE STYLE
• BUT ONCE THEY HAVE REACHED THEIR HIGH TOLERANCE THRESHOLD FOR
UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR, THEY ARE PRONE TO EXPLOSIVE OUTBURSTS, WHICH
ARE USUALLY OUT OF PROPORTION TO THE TRIGGERING INCIDENT.
• AFTER THE OUTBURST, HOWEVER, THEY MAY FEEL SHAME, GUILT, AND
CONFUSION, SO THEY RETURN TO BEING PASSIVE.
PASSIVE COMMUNICATION
: :
OBJECTIVES
1. To Demonstrate The Relative Effectiveness Of Communicating Assertively, Aggressively, And
Non-assertively.
2. To Give You Hands-on Experience With Different Styles Of Communication.
ROLE: POOR PERFORMER
•You Sell Shoes Full-time For A National Chain Of Shoe Stores. During The Last Month
You Have Been Absent Three Times Without Giving Your Manager A Reason.
•The Quality Of Your Work Has Been Slipping. You Have A Lot Of Creative Excuses
When Your Boss Tries To Talk To You About Your Performance.
•When Playing This Role, Feel Free To Invent A Personal Problem That You May
Eventually Want To Share With Your Manager.
•However, Make The Manager Dig For Information About This Problem. Otherwise,
Respond To Your Manager’s Comments As You Normally Would.
ROLE: STORE MANAGER
•You Manage A Store For A National Chain Of Shoe Stores. In The Privacy Of Your
Office, You Are Talking To One Of Your Salespeople Who Has Had Three Unexcused
Absences From Work During The Last Month.
• The Quality Of His Or Her Work Has Been Slipping. Customers Have Complained
That This Person Is Rude, And Co-workers Have Told You This Individual Isn’t
Carrying His Or Her Fair Share Of The Work.
•You Are Fairly Sure This Person Has Some Sort Of Personal Problem. You Want To
Identify That Problem And Get Him Or Her Back On The Right Track.
QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION
• 1. WHAT DRAWBACKS OF THE AGGRESSIVE AND NONASSERTIVE STYLES DID
YOU OBSERVE?
• 2. WHAT WERE MAJOR ADVANTAGES OF THE ASSERTIVE STYLE?
• 3. WHAT WERE THE MOST DIFFICULT ASPECTS OF TRYING TO USE AN ASSERTIVE
STYLE?
• 4. HOW IMPORTANT WAS NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION DURING THE VARIOUS
ROLE PLAYS? EXPLAIN WITH EXAMPLES.