SELF

DEVELOPMENT
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you
see? Do you see your ideal self or your actual self?
 • is the self that you aspire
to be. It is the one that
IDEAL you hope will possess
SELF characteristics like that of
(what you'd like to be)
a mentor or some other
worldly figure.
 ACTUAL SELF

• is the one that you

actually see. It is the self
that has characteristics
that you were nurtured
or, in some cases, born
to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two
broad categories of self-concept.

 Self-concept refers to your

awareness of yourself. It is the
construct that negotiates these two
selves. In other words, it connotes
first the identification of the ideal self
as separate from others, and second,
it encompasses all the behaviors
evaluated in the actual self that you
engage in to reach the ideal self.
Actual self is built on self-knowledge.
Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that
provide insight into how others react to you.
Actual self is who we actually are. It is how we think,
how we feel, look, and act. The actual self can be seen
by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing
how others view us, the actual self is our self-image.
Self Image is how you see your self in present moment.
 your ideal self, on the other hand, is how we
want to be. Your striving self, the ideal future
version of you.
Ideal self is not the person you are today,
rather the person you are striving to become
tomorrow/next year, its not a fixed destination.
Ideal self is changing over time.
CONGRUENCY - Alignment of your ideal self and actual
self is important.
If the way that I am is not aligned with how I want to
be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in
mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level of
incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the
greater the level of resulting distress. Personal
development modules aim is greater self-knowledge
that will lead to higher alignment between these two-
personality domain.