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bf0e7EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
bf0e7EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
bf0e7EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
• What factors are at play when people of high IQ fail and those of modest IQ
succeed?
• How well you do in your life and career is determined by both. IQ alone is not
enough; EQ also matters. In fact, psychologists generally agree that among the
ingredients for success, IQ counts for roughly 10% (at best 25%); the rest
depends on everything else — including EQ.
POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
• Some scholars think that putting all the emotions into two loose bags of
positive and negative is hardly a wise move. Hope, for example, is best
conceived as a combination of a wish that a desired outcome will occur with
anxiety that it might not. What is it then: a positive or a negative emotion?
• Pride is generally regarded as a positive emotion in the West but seen to be a
sin in more collectivistic societies. Love, one of the first emotions to spring to
mind when mentioning the positive, is hardly such when unrequited. Can
smiling and laughing be considered positive emotions when directed at
someone? What we shouldn’t underestimate whilst trying to understand
emotions is that what often makes them negative or positive is the context
within which they occur.
HEALTHY & UNHEALTHY EXPRESSION OF EMOTIONS
Here is a brief look at the fundamental nature of emotions.
What Healthy Emotions Look Like
• Healthy emotions are emotions that match the experience. For example, a
person gets angry if someone violates a boundary and lets the offender know.
Or, a person gets sad after a disappointment and cries. After the emotion
passes, and unless the situation is extreme and the person is unable to deal
with the intensity of the emotion, the individual is done with the emotion
completely.
What Emotions Should Not Look Like
• Emotions should not become an event that is played over and over again in
the mind each time the negative emotions are re-experienced. Healthy
emotions do not last for days and weeks without reprieve. Alternatively, it is
also unhealthy to repress emotions and pretend that everything is fine.
HEALTHY & UNHEALTHY EXPRESSION OF EMOTIONS