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Building Children's Positive Behaviour 2
Building Children's Positive Behaviour 2
POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR
Basic Theories on Child Behaviour
A. Behaviour is primarily the result of
heredity.
B. Behaviour depends on
environmental influences
C. Children go through stages of
behavioural development.
D. Misbehaving in children is normal.
Common Behaviours of Children Today
Shouting/yelling
Belittling
Shaming
Name calling
Comparing
Highlights with the following:
Many parents realize that our children’s
attitudes and behaviours are different
today than when we were children.
LEARNING POINTS
Some believe behaviour is primarily the
result of heredity.
Others believe behaviour depends on
environmental influences.
Children go through the different stages of
behavioural development.
One major theory is that of Erick Erickson
on the 8 stages of psychosocial development
There is a need for you, parents, to
understand behaviour and to accept that it
is normal for your children to misbehave
sometime.
There is a reason when your children
misbehave.
Infancy ( 0-2 ) Child needs food, love, rest, Child’s needs are not met.
recreation, security and Feels hungry, cold,
stimulation met by abandoned, pain
caregivers. Develops trust in (MISTRUST).
others, feels valued, feels a
sense that life is good
(HOPE).
Young Adult (19-40) Adult discovers his life Young adult cannot form
becomes better when he successful relationship
can share and love. with others, is
Chooses a partner, has promiscuous
children (SHARE). (ISOLATION).
Erikson’s Eight Stages Healthy Process Unhealthy Process
of Psychological
Development
Mature Age (65-Death) Adult discovers he had Adults knows that he did
what he wanted in life not get what he wanted
and feels content and out of life – is depressed,
satisfied with life sad, sometimes very ill
process. Develops (DESPAIR).
integrity, a sense of
getting old, coming to
terms with death, feels
life is worthwhile
(WISDOM).
Young Children Misbehave
Due to Many Reasons
POWER- Power-seeking children most often
feel they are only significant if they are the
boss. They want all their desires granted. If
parents do succeed at times in making their
children follow them, that success is only
temporary. The exchange would weaken
relationships with children.
When dealing with power-seeking children,
parents must refrain from getting angry.
They must disengage themselves from the
power struggle.
Using power tactics will only make the
situation even worse and lead children to
know and feel more of the value of power
and therefore desire it more.
If the power struggle continues, the
children usually feel that they cannot
defeat their parents; hence, they will
pursue the next goal – revenge.
REVENGE- Revengeful children find
their place by being cruel and disliked.
They feel that they are not lovable and
resort to hurting others to find meaning.
Parents of these children are very hurt
by the retaliation. These parents need
to realize that revengeful behavior
stems from discouragement.
If revenge continues and children come
to feel defeated, they may give up and
exhibit feelings of inadequacy.
Attention- Children desire attention.
They prefer to gain attention in useful
ways. If they are not able to achieve it,
they seek attention in useless ways.
Parents should focus on the
constructive behavior of children
through ignoring their misbehavior or
paying attention to it in ways not
expected. This places emphasis upon
giving attention rather than on getting
it.
Parents should “catch” and
acknowledge good behavior.
DISPLAY OF INADEQUACY- Extremely
discouraged children signal feelings of
inadequacy. They give up hopes of
succeeding. To help the child who feels
inadequate, parents must eliminate all
criticism and focus on the child’s
assets and strengths. The parents must
encourage any effort to improve, no
matter how small it seems.
BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES FOR
YOUNGER CHILDREN (2-12 YEARS OLD)
Causes of Young Children’s Misbehaviour
A. Power-seeking
B. Revenge
C. Desire for Attention
D. Display of Inadequacy
Ways of Handling Misbehaviour of Younger Children
A. Modelling good behavior h. Rewards/praise
B. Establishing family rules i. hugging/pat on the shoulder
C. Accepting/supporting Positive Behaviour
D. Time-Out
E. Loss of Privileges
F. Restitution/Replacement
G. Ignoring
Means of Preventing Misbehaviour of Younger
children