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Developing and Maintaining Relationship
Developing and Maintaining Relationship
MAINTAINING
RELATIONSHIP
•
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
• FAMILY:
• Small social group bound by ties of blood, civil contract, and
a commitment to care for one another Types of
Interpersonal Relationships
TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
• FRIENDSHIP
• Close and caring relationship between two people
• Perceived as mutually satisfying and beneficial
TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
• ROMANTIC Relationships
• Love “deep affection for and attachment to another person”
• Intimacy “Closeness and understanding of a relational
partner”
8 TYPES OF LOVE
TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
ONLINE Relationships
• Virtual relationships
• Hyperpersonal communication
THREE STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE
BY HELEN FISHER
1. Lust – is driven by the sex hormones, 2. Attraction – lovestruck phase, which
involves neurotransmitters in the brain such
testosterone, and estrogen. as dopamine, norepinephrine, and
serotonin.
3. Attachment – long-lasting commitments are
exchanged, and may lead to raising a
family. Oxytocin believes to promote
intimacy; vasopressin which promotes
long_x0002_term relationships
ATTACHMENTS: The Attachment Theory_ How Childhood Affects Life.mp4
• 2. ANXIOUS AVOIDANT
ATTACHMENT- when the primary
caregiver is cold and detached, and even
unresponsive to a child's needs.
• 3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT
ATTRACTION- when the primary
caregiver is not consistent in terms of
presence and in meeting a child's
emotional needs.
separation anxiety, mixed
feelings beween
hesitancy and
• 4. ANXIOUS DISORGANIZED commitment when
entering into
meaningful relationships.
WHY WILL YOU SAY NO TO SEX
• PRONE TO STD
• POSSIBILITY OF PREGNANCY
• RIGHT TIME FOR SEX
• BOUNDARY/LIMIT
HOW TO AVOID PEER/DATE PRESSURE
• SAY NO IT IN ADVANCE
• ALWAYS CARRY WITH YOU MONEY OR CELLPHONE IF YOU WANT TO LEAVE
THE PLACE
• NEVER OBLIGE TO PAY BACK IN RETURN FOR GIFTS OR A DATE
•PART 11
THE ROZENBERG QUARTERLY SEVERAL
THEORIES
RELATED TO ATTRACTION AND LIKING:
• 1. Transference Effect- Our past relationships can therefore affect our current interactions
with people.
• 2. Propinquity Effect- Proximity promotes familiarity and hence, liking, this can also be
true if we do not like a person.
• 3. Similarity- is a strong factor in friendship and in the selection of a mate because it
promotes intimacy, trust, empathy, and long-lasting relationships
• 4. Reciprocity - The more we are liked by someone we equally like, the more we
behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking.
• 5. Physical attractiveness- Physical attractiveness connotes positive health and
reproductive fitness, which are both essential to human survival.
• 6. Personality Characteristics and Traits-
• Empathic persons and socially competent persons.
• Happy and cheerful disposition, poised, and can present themselves well, outgoing, ad sexually warm
and responsive
• Integrity, income potential, and stability of men
• Attractiveness and Vitality of women
WHY DO WE FORM RELATIONSHIPS
• COMPANIONSHIP
• STIMULATION
• ACHIEVING GOAL
• PROXIMITY
• PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
• SIMILARITY
LOVING: OTHER BASES
• LIVE LONGER
• DEAL WITH STRESS
• BE HEALTHIER: DEPRESSION, DECREASED IMMUNE FUCNTION, HIGH BLOOD
PRESSURE
• FEEL RICHER
COSTS MANAGING RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS
CHEATING
SEXUAL ISSUES
SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCES
LIFE STAGES
TRAUMATIC EVENTS
STRESS (PHYSICAL/EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL/FINANCIAL)
BOREDOM
COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
JEALOUSY
BLENDED FAMILY ISSUES
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (VERBAL/PHYSICAL ABUSE)
IRRESPONSIBILITY
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
ADDICTIONS
LACK OF SUPPORT
COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
DOMINANCY
COMMUNICATION
GIVE AND TAKE
DEPRESSION
•PART 111
VARIABLES RELATED TO STRENGTHENING
COMMITMENT
• 1. Accumulation of all rewards of the relationship support from the partner; sexual
satisfactions; emotional, financial, and physical security; adventure; and novelty
• 2. Temptation of alternative partners the presence of possible alternatives for another
partner can rock the relationship and destabilize the commitment of a couple.
• 3. Investments made by the couple in the relationship may include time spent together,
common beliefs and experiences, mutual experiences with mutual friends, and bearing
children. Religious beliefs reinforce commitment
NURTURE YOU RELATIONSHIP
• 1. Criticism -there is the absence of unconditional positive regard for each other in a
relationship
• 2. Denial of the existence of conflict. When one party eludes the presence of a problem
and refuses to discuss it, as if belittling the problem, it will result in frustration on the side
of the other party
• 3. Contempt- Someone who looks down on the party as inferior does not give
unconditional positive regard, and aggravates the situation by expressing superiority over
the other.
• “ultimate expression of disillusionment and highly predictive of “divorce” or separation.
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
• PARTNERS ARE
• TREATED WITH KINDLESS AND RESPECT
• HONESTY
• LIKE TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER
• TAKE INTEREST IN THINGS AND ARE IMPORTANCE TO EACH OTHER
RESPONSIBILITIES IN A RELATIONSHIP
• 1.Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person.
• 2.Be responsible for what you promise to do or not to do.
• 3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.
• 4.Respect the other party or parties involved.
• 5.Be ready to provide support when needed.
BASIC RIGHT IN ARELATIONSHIP
PATIENCE
HONESTY
KINDNESS
RESPECT