Ideal Lifetime

Partner
 ½ sheet of paper
 List down the qualities of your
ideal lifetime partner.
 Share in class the qualities of
people whom you get attracted to.
 Enriching
Personal
Relationships
 Friendships
-- is
a close association
between two people
marked by feelings of
care, respect,
admiration, concern,
love, or like.
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/
psychpedia/friendship
 Friendships
Common traits of friendship include:
• Some degree of commitment both to the friendship and to
the other person’s well-being
• A desire for contact with some regularity with the other
person–whether the frequency is once every ten years or
once every two days
• Mutual trust, concern, and compassion
• Shared interests, opinions, beliefs, or hobbies
• Shared knowledge about one another’s lives,
emotions,fears, or interests
• Feelings of love, respect, admiration, or like 
 Peer Influence
• Peer pressure or influence is when you do something
you wouldn’t otherwise do, because you want to feel
accepted and valued by your friends.
• Peer influence can be positive or negative.
• Coping well with peer influence is about getting the
balance right between being yourself and fitting in with
your group.
https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/behaviour/peers-friends-trends/
peer-influence
 Balancing Peer Pressure
• Maintain close family ties.
• Cling to positive values.
• Be open to your parents and siblings.
• Indulge in fruitful and creative activities.
• Enhance self-confidence.
• Practice good decision making.
• Resist temptation and say no.
 “No Man Is An Island”
"No man is an island entire of itself; every
man 
is a piece of the continent, a part of the
main; 
if a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe 
is the less, as well as if a promontory were,
as 
well as any manner of thy friends or of
thine 
own were; any man's death diminishes me, 
because I am involved in mankind. 
And therefore never send to know for
whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee."
https://web.cs.dal.ca/~johnston/poetry/island.html
 Interpersonal
Attraction
 Refers to forces or elements that make people like each other.

 Five Reasons
1. Physical Attractiveness
2. Physical Proximity
3. Similarity
4. Reciprocal Liking
5. Familiarity
Infatuation
The emotional impulse of love,
untested by time or circumstance.
Love
Is a set of thoughts, feelings and
actions associated with a desire to
enter or maintain a close
relationship with a specific person
(Aron & Aron 1998).
 Liking and Loving
Infatuation: The Fairy Tale Love: The Real Thing
• Short lived • Grows with time
• Indecisive • Loyal
• Argumentative moves with little • Keeps calm in difficult and trying
irritants times
• Highlights attractiveness • Stresses inner beauty
• Receives • Provides
• Self-centered • Self-regulated
• Shows emotion • Manifests commitment
• Flourishes on imperfecton • Accepts imperfection
• Jealous • Trusting
• Idealistic • Realistic
Ancient Greeks: Four Types
of Love (Gregory 2012)
1. Philia - love between friends
2. Eros - passionate love
between 2 individuals
3. Storge - affectionate love for the
family
4. Agape- unconditional love
 Triangular Theory of Love
Commitment refers to one’s willingness to
stay with a certain person.

Intimacy refers to how connected, bonded,

and close one is to someone.

Passion relates to one’s attraction to a person

in a romantic and erotic sense.
Triangular Theory of Love
Triangular Theory of Love
 Seven Types of Love
1. Liking
Described as having extreme closeness
without obligation or promise.
An attachment with no sexual attraction nor
lasting commitment to the person.
https://study.com/academy/lesson/sternbergs-triangular-theory-of-love-definition-examples-predictions.html#/lesson
 Seven Types of Love
2. Companionate Love
Closeness and devotion exist but no
sexual passion.
3.Empty Love
Obligation is present, but there is neither
desire nor closeness.
https://www.hofstra.edu/pdf/community/slzctr/stdcsl/stdcsl_triangular.pdf
 Seven Types of Love
4. Fatuous Love
 There is obligation and craving, but no
closeness.
5. Infatuation
 Refers to desire without closeness or
obligation. This feeling is fleeting.
“love at first sight”
 Seven Types of Love
6. Romantic Love
 Comprises a short-lived severe feeling and
association.
 May disappear if a meaningful emotional
relationship is not sustained due to lack of
obligation.
 Seven Types of Love
7. Consummate Love
 Refers to the “perfect” type of love
situated at the middle of the triangle.
 This is where intimacy, commitment,
and passion are balanced and uniformly
fervent.
 Why People Fall in
Love
Ten Factors (David Levy)
1. Similarity
2. Reciprocal Liking
3. Desirable Characteristics
4. Social Acceptability
5. Need Fulfillment
 Why People Fall in
Love
Ten Factors (David Levy)
6. Feeling in love
7. Special appeal
8. Relationship readiness
9. Alone time
10. An air of mystery
Delightful Elements of
Love Relationships
1. Attraction
--physical desirability
--wonderful feeling of wanting to
be together
2. Closeness
--manifests trust
--the attachment that glues people together
sharing moments.
Delightful Elements of
Love Relationships
3. Commitment
--one’s conviction to hold on to the
relationship no matter what.
--constitutes a promise to be with
the other person through thick
and thin.
 Healthy Relationship
1. Mutual respect
--respect the individuality of the
other party.
--consider limitations and
boundaries.
 Healthy Relationship
2. Trust
--important component in any
relationship.
3. Honesty
4. Support
--should be given in good and
bad times.
 Healthy Relationship
5. Fairness and Equality
--give-and-take approach
6. Separate Identities
--allows compromises
--respect identity
7. Good communication
--open line of communication
--talk things out instead of bottling
Unhealthy Relationship
– Starts when both parties think only of
themselves.
– Disrespecting by making one do something
against the will.
– Controlling
– Becomes physically, emotionally, or verbally
abusive
 Why Relationships
End?
– Falling out of love
– Inconsiderate toward the partner’s concern
– Distance
– Personality differences
– Cheating
– Emotional immaturity
– Restrictions from the family
 Why Relationships
End?
– Misunderstanding
– Socioeconomic status
– Cultural, religious, or ideological differences
– Forcing one’s partner to engage in sexual
activities
– Differences in setting career goals
– Conflict with work or school schedules
 Moving On
– Losing a relationship is very painful and traumatic.
We may find it difficult to move on after a failed
relationship.
– Adverse consequences may be felt in one’s academic
performance, eating habits, sleeping patterns,
socialization, and even personal grooming.
– A strong support system such as family and circle of
friends can be of significant help.