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Chapter 4
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TOPICS
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INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT
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PRISONER’S
DILEMMA
Prisoner’s dilemma (in game theory) means a situation in which two players
each have two options whose outcome depends crucially on the
simultaneous choice made by the other,
often formulated in terms of two prisoners separately deciding whether to
confess or not confess to a crime.
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EXAMPLE OF PRISONER'S DILEMMA
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MANAGING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT
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THE THOMAS CONFLICT RESOLUTION APPROACH
i)Assertiveness:
- Individual seeks to satisfy own concerns
ii) Cooperativeness:
- Individual seeks to satisfy other’s
concerns
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THE THOMAS CONFLICT RESOLUTION APPROACH
Concern for self
1. Avoiding:
It is unassertive and uncooperative.
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2. Accommodation
It is unassertive and cooperative—the opposite of competing.
This is when you cooperate to a high degree, and it may be at your
own expense, and actually work against your own goals, objectives,
and desired outcomes.
Proverb “Kill your enemies with kindness.”
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3. Compromise
It is intermediate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness
This is the “lose-lose” scenario where neither party really
achieves what they want. This requires a moderate level of
assertiveness and cooperation.
Proverb “Split the difference.”
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4. Competition
It is assertive and uncooperative, a power-oriented mode.
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5. Collaboration
It is both assertive and cooperative.
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Types of Interpersonal Conflict
Pseudo conflicts and Real Arguments
Conflict happens when two people want different things
and can neither come to an agreement nor get what they
want without the other person. For example, if you want
to go out for Japanese food while your friend wants to go
out for Italian food, you can't both get what you want
and still go out to dinner together
Policy Conflicts
Policy conflicts are disagreements about how to deal
with a situation that affects both parties. For instance,
you may have strong feelings about the best way to get a
project completed at work, while your coworker may
feel just as strongly that it should be handled another
way. Or you may want to set aside a certain amount of
your household income for savings, but your partner
wants to spend a little more on entertainment.
Value Conflicts
No two people have the exact same set of personal values.
According to the Conflict Research Consortium at the
University of Colorado, it can be easy to assume the other
person is just being stubborn or wrongheaded about a
situation, when the real explanation is that you have a
difference of underlying values. For example, you may believe
saving money and planning for the future is an important
value, while your partner believes it is more important to
enjoy your life in the present.
Ego Conflicts
In an ego conflict, losing the argument would
damage the person's sense of self-esteem. For
instance, if you want to go out to a different movie
than your friend, this would ordinarily be an easy
issue to resolve. However, if you feel like your
friend always gets to pick the movie you see
together, you might feel that giving in would make
you the less powerful partner in the relationship.
CAUSES OF INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT
Organizational Structure
Limited Resources
Task Interdependence
Incompatible Goals
Personality Differences
Communication Problems
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CONSEQUENCES OF
INTERPERSONAL
CONFLICT
Lose-lose
Consequences of
Interpersonal Lose-win
Win-win
Conflict
Win-lose
•Win-win: Both parties are satisfied. That
management has given benefits to both of
the conflicting parties. For example: in
case of promotion there was only one post
but both candidates were qualified.
•Lose-lose: Neither party is
satisfied. If management takes
decision not gives consider any
candidate for promotion until
another new is advertized. In this
case none of the candidates may
be happy with management’s
decision though it may be for a
short time.
Win-lose: One party is
satisfied (in the short term), the
other is not. However, over long
term, it often evolves into a lose-
lose situation. For example, you
force your daughter to come home
early because you don’t like her
friends.
•Lose-win: One party is satisfied
with the solution but another party
is not happy. If we cite same
example from the first instance, it
can be said that one candidate has
been promoted but other part’s case
has not been considered.
SOURCES OF INTERPERSONAL
CONFLICT
i. Personality
ii. Bases of Power
iii. Organizational Climate
DO’S AND DON’T DO’S
FOR
MANAGING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT
1. Do’s
Do try to be assertive (but not aggressive). Fight fair,
being fair both to yourself and other person.
Do make conflict a collaborative effort because it is a joint
problem.
Do make sure to keep focus on the issue and not on who is
right.
CONTD…
2. Don’t Do’s
Don’t escalate into a power conflict or an impasse.
Don’t do “gunny sacking” i.e. mix in other issues.
Give clear, behavioral feedback. Most managers will spend months, even years,
complaining about poor employees and not ever giving them actual feedback
about what they need to be doing differently. But great managers learn to do to
it reasonably well, and then they do it.
STEPS FOR MANAGING DIFFICULT
EMPLOYEES
Set consequences if things don’t change. If things still aren’t improving at this
point, good managers get specific. They say some version of, “I still believe you
can turn this around. Here’s what turning it around would look like. If I don’t see
that behavior by x date, here’s what will happen” (e.g., “you’ll be let go,” or “ you’ll
be put on warning,” or “you won’t be eligible for a promotion” – some substantive
negative consequence.).
Work through the company’s processes. Good managers hold out hope for
improvement until the point when they actually decide to let the person go. If
you’re at this point in your efforts to address the situation, you ought to be
having very clear conversations with HR so that you know exactly what you need
to do to clear the path to termination, if that turns out to be necessary.
STEPS FOR MANAGING DIFFICULT
EMPLOYEES
Don’t poison the well. All too often, poor managers substitute bad-mouthing the
problem employee. No matter how difficult an employee may be, good managers
don’t trash- talk to other employees. It creates an environment of distrust and
back-stabbing, it pollutes others’ perception of the person, and it makes you look
weak and unprofessional. Just don’t do it.
Manage your self-talk. Throughout this process, make sure your self-talk is
neither unhelpfully positive nor unhelpfully negative. Thinking to yourself, “This
guy’s an idiot and will never change,” isn’t useful, nor is thinking, “Everything will
turn out fine, he’s great, there’s no problem.” Good managers take a fair witness
stance, making sure that what they say to themselves about the situation is as
accurate as possible.
STEPS FOR MANAGING DIFFICULT
EMPLOYEES
Be courageous. Firing someone is the hardest thing a manager has to do. If it gets
to that point, do it right. Don’t make excuses, don’t put it off, don’t make someone
else do it. The best managers do the tough things perfectly.
If you learn to use these ‘good manager’ approaches when you have a difficult
employee, then no matter how things turn out, you’ll end up knowing that you’ve
done your best in a tough situation. And that may be the best stress reducer of all.
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