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Pre-Marital Counseling 3
Pre-Marital Counseling 3
Pre-Marital Counseling 3
In this session we
will be talking about
two important topics
pertaining to
marriage .
Topic 1 – Truth and Myths About
Marriage Sexuality
Love and
Sex in
Marriage
Taken from Two Becoming – by Don and Sally Meredith
The sexual drive is a
powerful drive God has
placed in men and
women
God has much to say about
sex in the Scriptures
Before we look at this
topic of sexual
relations, a word of
encouragement
First and foremost for a successful
sexual relationship remember……
God created the
sexual expression
In other words
Sex was God’s idea
God intended sex as a pleasure and
blessing within the confines of
marriage
Cultural Programming
they have received.
The Film and Television industry
has create false sexual images.
It is implied that only
physically attractive
people succeed sexually .
And that great sexual
compatibility comes quickly
and easily.
Meanwhile the wholesale
marketing of sex by
advertisers has contributed
significantly to the growth of
pornography.
Which result in False Images
False Comparisons
And Disappointment
GUILT
These factors often
confuse and leave us
unsure of what God
really desires for us
sexually
Second cause of sexual
frustration….
It is called adultery
It is also Sexual Immorality
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored
by all, and the marriage bed
kept pure, for God will judge
the adulterer and all the
sexually immoral.
God intended sex
and marriage to
produce children
and for pleasure
Genesis 1:28
God blessed them and said to
them, "Be fruitful and increase
in number; fill the earth and
subdue it. Rule over the fish of
the sea and the birds of the air
and over every living creature
that moves on the ground."
Psalm 127:3
Sons are a heritage
from the Lord,
children a reward
from him.
Truth 1 - Sexuality is God’s creation
. Truth 2 – Physical Love is for Procreations and
Pleasure
Truth 3 – Physical
Love Demands a Time
Priority
Deut. 24:5
If a man has recently married,
he must not be sent to war or
have any other duty laid on him.
For one year he is to be free to
stay at home and bring happiness
to the wife he has married.
The Words “BRING
HAPPINESS” refers the
pleasure the husband and
wife can bring to each other.
A relationship solely
based on sex is
doomed for disaster.
That is the reason that
many troubled
marriage list sexual
problems as one
contributing
factors.
They base their happiness in
marriage on the sex act.
And when it is no longer there,
or what they think is should be
they feel the marriage is over.
So in marriage the couple must also
focus on and develop other aspects of
their relationship as well.
Such as…
The Emotional
The Intellectual
And the Spiritual
Agape
This type of love is a self-giving love
An Affectionate Type of love
Kind of Love God Has For Us
As with all of God’s Word, we cannot truly
begin to understand love until we begin to
apply it in our lives.
Arrogance is big–headed;
Love is big–hearted.
Proverbs 16:18
Pride goes before
destruction, a haughty
spirit before a fall.
Love Does Not Act Unbecomingly
The principle here has to do with poor
manners, with acting rudely. It is not as
serious a fault as bragging or arrogance,
but it stems from the same lovelessness.
It does not care enough for those it is
around to act becomingly or politely.
It cares nothing for their feelings or
sensitivities. The loveless person is
careless, overbearing, and often crude.
Love Does Not Seek Its Own
Here is probably the key to everything.
The root evil of fallen human nature is
in wanting to have its own way.
To be angered by the
mistreatment of the unfortunate
or by the maligning and
contradiction of God’s Word is
righteous indignation
When Jesus cleansed the Temple,
He was angered at the profaning
of His Father’s house of worship
(Matt. 21:11–12).