Behavior, Attitude and Motivation

Training Session at IBA

Dr. Ghulam Dastgeer
Air University, Islamabad
0333-5111-469
hellodastgeer@gmail.com
Q: What type of behavior do we need in 21st century
employees?
Q: When did you perform best in your life?
Q: Is this world a battle field?
 Biological Dialectic
Charles Robert Darwin (A theologian)
(12 February 1809 – 19 April 1882)

Book: On the Origin of Species by Means of

Natural Selection, or the Preservation of
Favored Races in the Struggle for Life.

His book is considered to be the foundation of

evolutionary biology.
He gave an assumption “survival of the fittest”
which later become part of the science.
Survival of the Fittest
 Hobbes’ theory of “bellum omnium contra omnes”
[war of all against all]

Every thing is a part of a dialectic. Only those will

survive who are fittest…
 Law of Jungle
Lion eats Dog
Dog eats Cat
Cat eats Rat
Rat eats seeds
etc…
 Transition from Ape to Man…
A random selection of Nature….
Ignored the cause and effect, or action and reaction….
 Social Dialectic
Karl Marx (1818-1883)

Dialectic Materialism Vs Dialectic Idealism

The basis of Marxism is materialism

(Marxism starts from the idea that matter is
the essence of all reality)
 Conflict Between Classes
The struggle between the classes (cultures, societies, countries
etc.) is the engine of dialectic materialism
Struggle to survive and thrive… A never-ending battle
All societies, races, countries and whole world is in a state of war….
It’s a zero sum game….
You can only win if you defeat others…
In other words:
Life is a battle field…
Progress is a battle game…
 Civilizations

Islam Yelloish West

Civilization tells you how to live…

All civilizations are fighting with each others

i.e. US have fought 20+ battles in last 200 years except one war
(WW2) all are against other societies.

Same law of Jungle is applied on the societies…

 Marxism Vs. Religion
Religion argues that people are not the main force for change. It
attributes change to a divine power, offering hope for change in an
afterlife. But dialectical materialism shows that both notions are false.
A materialist therefore seeks an explanation not only for ideas, but for
material phenomena themselves, in terms of material causes and not in
terms of supernatural intervention by gods and the like.
 Individual Dialectic
Every human being is in the state of war. One can only win if he/she Kills others.
There is war at:
home
office
school
job opening
Mosques
etc…
Schooling System

Our school system is

grading system…
Being number 1 matters
most for the students.
A war at school
• No giving nature in student
• In relative grading, students
wants to come 1st and they will
not try to share their best with
other just because of their
FEAR.
• Results in low self-esteem and
low confidence.
 Official Dialectics
Result of all previous dialectics….
Working for ourselves not for
organization…

Organization politics
Gossip
Leg-pulling
In sum Dialectics division…
Biological Dialectics
creates philosophy of Godlessness (no beginning of life,
no one to control this world)
Social Dialectics
Creates philosophy of Godlessness (war among classes
and casts, societies and countries)
Individual Dialectics
Creates philosophy of Godlessness (believers of chance,
fluke, kick, coincidence)
 Dialectic Pendulum
Dialectic is an instrument/liver of
Competition…
Competition in biology, ecology, and sociology, is
a contest between organisms, animals, individuals,
groups, etc., for territory, a niche, or a location
of resources, for resources and goods, mates,
for prestige, recognition, awards, or group or
social status, for leadership.
Competition is the opposite of cooperation. It
arises whenever at least two parties strive for a
goal which cannot be shared or which is desired
individually but not in sharing and cooperation
Q: what are the advantages of COMPETITION?
Q: Are you people sure about all the benefits of
competition?
Means:
 Goal/aimlessness • Proud
 Stress
• Greed
• Envy
 Tension
• Ego
 Jealousy • We vs. they
 Selfishness • Ingratitude
 Separation • Divorce
 Conflict • Forget yourself
 Grouping • Low self-esteem (especially in school grading
system)
• Even you go for more and more and more
Buying…..
Competition, Ego and S.E
Competition creates two perfect relations with your
ego and self esteem
Competition Ego

Ego Self Esteem

Do you know what was the actual fault of the Devil?
Healthy competition
=
Healthy poison
an act or instance of working or
acting together for a common
purpose or benefit; joint action.
Bring your life in a serving mode…
Live life for others
Quran says about best achievers: Ruhama O
Bainahum ( Compassionate among themselves)
Blue Ocean
Vs.
Red Ocean
Why organizations are investing more and more in
teamwork???
What is goal orientation?
Advantages of goal orientation?

 Competition Vs. Goal-orientation
Our school systems are preparing our children for competition…
If Baby “A” focus on competition strategy and baby “B” focus on Goal-
orientation strategy, after 20 years who will be
successful?

• Who are successful in this world

Goal oriented or competition
oriented?

• Do you know any person who got

success with competition oriented
strategy?
Q: Does competition really create Motivation?
Does failure in competition motivates you?
Goals or purpose makes motivation.
Without goals there is no motivation in life/work.
Dream is first step to do something extra ordinary.
Failure in goals motivates you more and more and will cause you to dream
and learn more.
We teach our children from the their child hood
“You can’t do, please don’t do”
eventually it becomes the belief of the child
that he/she can’t do, just like an elephant
who can’t break a small chain…
Good to great: Good is the enemy of great…
Q: why we people are living our life purposeless?
Every body born unique.
Use what ever skills abilities and interest you have , make
purpose of your life…
Because purposeless nations
do purposeless things.
See life of Sahabas.
Make your life goal oriented
Quran: Do you think you are
created without any purpose?
A man with purpose can not be molded, stressed, or cursed.
Always keep the end in mind.
Until you have objectives you remain young and alive.
What happens with people after their retirement?
Why do female look too old even at the age of 40?
Wise people always know about themselves. Spend some
time for you…
 Behavior is an Iceberg

Behavior is an action, we can only see behavior of the people but can’t
see other things that cause behavior
Effect of environment and company
Man is known by his company and the books he
read…
Attitude
Inside us is “attitude”… that moves us up or down
How attitude is developed?
How one can strengthen or weaken the attitude?
How attitude affects on our behavior?
Positive attitude

Negative attitude
Effect of negative attitude on our behavior
Effect of negative attitude on our immune system
YOUR ATTITUDE???
Do you want to collect Dust or Gold?
Do you focus on good deeds or bad habits of people?
Emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually:
Are you a filth/weakness collector or purity/goodness?
Do you know the effect of competition on our attitude???
Emotions and feelings come from Soul and Mind always obey
Emotions…
Spirituality(Soul) Emotions(Heart) Planning (Mind) Action(Body)
Effect of external factors on
Behavior and Attitude
Do you believe external factors can
influence our behavior and attitude?
An outside in approach
You are recognizes by your company,
environment, and the books you read.
If we go USA/India we will become(try to
become) American/Indian.
What about a person who brings Idol
in your home, would you accept it?
Would you like to celebrate religious
ceremonies of other religions?
Here the formula works

Hate Tolerate Embrace

Motivation
Motivation is an action, we can’t motivate people in
fact. We can inspire people to go extra mile and align
his/her goals with organizational goals.

Make people say

“ Yes I Can”
We all have wishes and whishes can’t come true until we make
it a burning desire. And a burning desire is nothing until we
make it obsession (full of energy)

Wish Burning Desire Obsession Sound Planning Continuous efforts

Faith (in Allah and yourself)

Both faiths are necessary

True motivation is intrinsic motivation that come from your

goals…
Human Needs
A Human being is made up of four parts
Body (Physical needs)
Mind (Intellectual needs)
Heart (Emotional needs)
Soul (Spiritual needs)

All body parts has their own needs and use.

Food and Behavior
 Body (What to Eat)

YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT

 Goat (Milk, Mutton)
 Cow (Milk, Beef)
 Buffalo
 Camel
NATURE
 Live close to nature
 Food & Environment go together
(Sky ->Healing) (Green->Freshness)
Less processed Food (Steaming, Boiling, Baking, Whole
Grain)
Fruits are better than juices and juices are better than
milk shakes
More fiber
Fish, yogurt, cheese, milk
Vegetables (upper from ground
are better)
Eat at least one dark green
Low fat dairy product
12 glass of water (98.6 Cent.) (sweat, Urine, Body
requirements)
Sweating is essential as reason for many illnesses is more
toxic in the body -> Exercise
Morning water therapy
 What to Avoid?
Fried (Oil)
Tetra pack
Fast Food Quick fixes, A lifestyle
Chewing gum, supari, soft drink, Bottled water
Eat while watching TV or reading
Drink water in the middle  Gastric issues, constipation
Drink water in the end  Diabetes
Red meat related problems (High risk of heart disease, high B.P,
kidney failure, obesity, Arthritis…. )
High sugar consumption ( in 1900 Americans consumed 4
pound of sugar and with the increase of 2500% , now they
consume 129 pounds a year, 57% of this comes from
processed food.
How to Eat?
Cleanliness
Chew
Eat slowly
Thankfulness/ gratitude
Start with the water
Ideally sit on the floor
Help in cooking  saliva helps in digestion
Right hand
Gratitude
How much to Eat?
Small serving
Small cup
Single serving if you want to reduce
Mix platter
Ensure Consumption

Dates
Honey
Ginger
Garlic
Clove
Mustard seed
Olive
Black pepper
Cinnamon
Black seeds
 Mind
Positive Mental Attitude
Benefits of positive thinking (high self esteem, No depression, no
hypertension, no anxiety, lesser pain, speedy recovery from
surgery, enhanced immune system…)
Negativity (low self esteem, ripped of relations, loneliness,
stress, depression, hypertension, anxiety, more pain, late recovery
from surgery, weaker immune system, migraine, arthritis,
stomach disorder, ulcer, backache, cancer…..)
Mind think in images
5 senses for data and information gathering
It controls your body
How to generate Positive?
Law of Attraction
The moment you change your perception is the moment
you rewrite the chemistry of your body.
Dr. Bruce H Lipton
Heart
Positive emotions

Negative emotions

Hormonal changes
Dopamine (feel good) Hugging or Apple, water malon,
soyabean, almond, fish…
Endorphin (natural pain reliever) Hugging or
margarine, butter, cheese, ….breast feeding, laughing,
gaming, meditation
Avoid
Jealously
Hatred
Anger
Backbiting
Arrogance
Vulgarity
Bad language
Cursing
 Soul
Sajjda (Reducing risk of brain attacks, smooth circulation of
blood, oxygen to the brain, reduce obesity, improve sleep,
relief hernia pain, increased eye sight, face beauty…..

Wadu (message spots, cleanliness, freshness, active….