STUDENTS

Teacher As a Counsellor

DEVELOPING
POSITIVE
RELATIONSHIP
WITH
Recall one person who has had a significant
influence in helping you discover and develop
your gifts, who confirmed your potential,
inspired you, or who helped you find meaning
and direction in life.
What do you feel were
the most significant
characteristics of this
person’s relationship
with you?
The teachers who
inspired and helped
us were surely
nearly always the
ones who took us
seriously, who
believed in us and
gave us a stronger
sense of our self-
worth and
potential.
– Cardinal Basil Hume
COUNSELI
NG
 Counseling provides an opportunity to talk with a
person to discuss issues, conflicts with friends,
relationship breakdown, domestic violence, anxiety,
depression, grief, sexual problems, childhood
sexual abuse, stress and classroom related
tensions and disputes.
 Counseling is designed to facilitate student
achievement, improve student behavior and
attendance, and help students develop socially
MISCONCEPTIO
NS
 Counseling only deals with disciplinary and
serious mental and emotional problems.
 Seeking for counseling help means the person
is weak.
 It is awkward to talk to the counselor/teacher
about my personal issues.
 Other people/students will know if I’m going
to talk to teacher separately or teacher is
giving me extra attention after school.
ACTIVITY
 I’m getting teased,
everyone makes fun
of me and I don’t PG-KG
want to come to
school.

I get anxious
and stressed
during exams 1-3
and end up
being sick.

My parents are
separating and 4&5
I’m always sad
and can’t focus in
class.
WELL DONE !!!!
 WHAT DO GOOD TEACHER-STUDENT
RELATIONSHIPS LOOK LIKE AND WHY DO THESE
RELATIONSHIPS MATTER?

 Teachers who foster positive relationships with their

students create classroom environments more
conducive to learning and meet students'
developmental, emotional and academic needs.
 Successful teachers are those that have the ability
to maximise the learning potential of all students
in their class and focus on the well being of
students.

 Developing positive relationships between a

teacher and student is a fundamental aspect of
quality teaching and student learning.
“The quality of teacher-student
relationships is the keystone
for all other aspects of
classroom management.”
 SIGNS OF
POSITIVE
TEACHER-
 Assess yourself
STUDENT
RELATIONSHIPS
1.They provide structured environment
2. They teach with enthusiasm and passion
3. They display a positive attitude
4. They make learning fun
5.They show an interest in your student’s lives
outside the classroom
6. They treat students with respect.
7.They create a secure and safe environment
for students.
8.They keep themselves calm and have
plenty of
patients even after a tiresome day.

And many many more…

HERE ARE SOME CONCRETE EXAMPLES OF CLOSENESS
BETWEEN A TEACHER AND A STUDENT:
A fourth grade boy who is struggling in math shows
comfort in admitting to his teacher that he needs help
with multiplying and dividing fractions even if most of
the students in the class have moved beyond this work.
 A middle school girl experiences bullying
from other students and approaches her
social studies teacher to discuss it because
she trusts that the teacher will listen and
help without making her feel socially
inept.
 IMPROVING STUDENTS' RELATIONSHIPS WITH
TEACHERS TO PROVIDE ESSENTIAL SUPPORTS FOR
LEARNING
 Improving students' relationships with teachers has
important, positive and long-lasting implications
for both students' academic and social
development.
 Solely improving students' relationships with their
teachers will not produce gains in achievement.
However, those students who have close, positive
and supportive relationships with their teachers will
attain higher levels of achievement than those
students with more conflict in their
relationships.
 WHAT DO YOU EXPECT
FROM YOUR STUDENTS

 Let’s see what they expect from you

Interaction is a cycle…

Student
Student
Feeling
Behavior

Adult Adult
Reaction Feeling
• Don't assume that being kind
and respectful to students is • Make an effort to get to know
enough to strengthen
and connect with each
achievement. Ideal
student in your classroom.
classrooms have more than a • Make an effort to spend time
single goal
individually with each
• Don't wait for negative
student, especially those who
behaviors and interactions to
are difficult or shy
occur in the classroom.
• Be aware of the explicit and
Instead, take a proactive
stance on promoting a implicit messages you are
positive social experience giving to your students

• Don't assume that
relationships are
inconsequential/insignificant.
• Be aware that students will
often adopt the strategies
that you use. They notice
negative strategies, too, such
as yelling at students or
making mean or disrespectful
jokes about colleagues
• Create a positive
climate in your classroom
by focusing not only on
improving your
relationships with your
students, but also on
enhancing the relationships
among your students
• show genuine care for
your students – both as
learners and as
people.
HOW TO DEVELOP POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS WITH
YOUR STUDENTS:

Show your pleasure and enjoyment of students.

Example : PG+KG

Interact with students in a responsive and

respectful manner.
Example: Nursery T+PG

Offer students help (e.g., answering questions in

timely manner, offering support that matches
students' needs) in achieving academic and
social objectives.
Example: Nursery C+ Class 3
 Help students reflect (self assess) on their
thinking and learning skills.
Example: KG + II- T/C

 Know and demonstrate knowledge about

individual students' backgrounds, interests,
emotional strengths and academic levels.

Example: Class I-T/C

Avoid showing irritability or aggravation
toward students.
Example: Class IV

Acknowledge the importance of peers in schools

by encouraging students to be caring and
respectful to one another.
Example: Class V
AMAZING 
 “I’ve come to the conclusion that I am the decisive
element in my classroom. It is my personal
approach that creates the climate.
It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I
possess tremendous power to make my students
lives miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture
or an instrument of inspiration. I can
humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all
situations, it is MY response that decides
whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated
and a person humanized or dehumanized.”
Dr. Haim Ginott