Chapter 6

Discovering
the self: The
sexual self
Topic No. 1. Sex

Sex- is a part of what makes a person human. Being human the prime
function is procreation. However, sex goes far beyond the instinct to
procreate. Sex is likewise about pleasure, enjoyment, excitement and
even ecstasy.
Added to this earthly delight of the flesh-this is the thrill of physical
touching and being touch by another warm body, the surging excitement
toward sexual release, the ultimate coming out during the sexual climax,
and the pulsating, peaceful afterglow of the relaxing feeling after orgasm.
Topic No. 1
Human sexuality serves both psychologically and spiritually. Human
sexuality is the way people experience and express themselves sexually.
This involves biological, psychological, physical, erotic, emotional, social,
or spiritual feelings and behaviors. Because it is a broad term, which has
varied with historical contexts over time, it lacks a precise definition.

Ecstasy, etymologically which means ex-stasis, is not just physical but

psychological and spiritual experiences.means ex-stasis, is not just
physical but psychological and spiritual experiences. Sex links a person
not only with another being but with one's own being and humanity.
Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics

• The female sex hormone and estrogen and other hormones causes
the physical changes. Many girls are fully developed at age 16, others
continue to develop through age 18.
Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics
The following are stages that female undergoes.

Stage 1: From ages 8-12

• No noticeable sign of physical development although the ovaries are enlarging and
hormone production is starting.

Stage 2: May begin anywhere from ages 8-14

• Height and weight increase rapidly. Fine hair growths begins close to the pubic area
and underarm
• Breast buds appear, nipple become raised and tender.
• Sweat and oil glands (sebaceous and apocrine) become active which may result to
acne.
Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics

Stage 3: May start anywhere from ages 9-15

• Breasts may become rounder and fuller.
• Hips may start to widen in relation to breast.
• Vagina begins secreting a clear and whitish fluid.
• Pubic hair becomes fuller, thicker, and curlier
• Height and weight continue to increase.
• For some girls ovulation and menstruation may begin but may be irregular.

Stage 4: May begin anywhere from ages 10-16

• Underarm hair becomes darker.
• Pubic hair starts to form a triangular patch 8n front and side of the genital area.
• The nipple and the dark area around the breast called areola may stick out from the rest of the
breast.
• For the girls ovulation and menstruation period begins but may be irregular.
Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics

Stage 5: May start anywhere from ages 12-19

• Adult height is already reached.
• Breast development is complete.
• Pubic hair forms a thick, curly, triangular patch.
• Ovulation and menstrual period occur regularly.
• Overall look is that of a young adult woman.
Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics
The male hormone testosterone and other hormones cause the puberty changes. The following
are the stages that happen.

Stage 1: Between ages 8-12

• No visible sign of physical development, but hormone production is starting.

Stage 2: May begin anywhere from ages 11-13

• Height and weight increase rapidly.
• Testicles become larger and scrotum hangs lower.
• Scrotum becomes darker in color.
• Fine hair growth starts at the base of the penis.
• Hair growth may begin on the legs and underarms.
Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics

Stage 3: May start anywhere from ages 12-14

• The penis, scrotum, and testicle grow.
• Pubic hair becomes darker, thicker and curlier.
• Muscle become larger and shoulder becomes broader.
• Sweat and oil glands (sebeceous and apocrine) become more active which
may result in acne.
• Sperm production may begin.
• Temporary swelling and tenderness may occur around the nipples.
• Height and weight continue to increase
• Hair growth on the legs and underarms continue.
 Topic No. 2. Secondary Sex
Characteristics
Stage 4: May begin anywhere from ages 13-16
• Sperm production has begun.
• The larynx or adam's apple increases in size. Vocal chords become longer and thicker, and the voice begin crack
or break, then become low.
• Height and weight continue to increase.
• Penis and testicles continue to grow. Pubic hair increases in amount and becomes darker, coarser and curlier.

Stage 5: May begin anywhere from ages 14-18.

• Growth of facial hair begins.
• Chess hair growth begins (not all males get much chest hair)
• Adult height is reach.
• Penis and testicles have reached adult size.
• Pubic underarm and legs hair are adult color, texture, and distribution.
• Overall looks is that of a young adult man ( Rathus, 2014 )
Topic No. 3. Sexual
Maturation

• Sexual maturity is the capability of an organism to

reproduce. In humans, it is related to both puberty
and adulthood. However, puberty is the process of
biological sexual maturation, while the concept of
adulthood is generally based on broader cultural
definitions.
Topic No. 4. Human Reproduction

• Human reproduction is sexual reproduction that

results in human fertilization to produce a human
offspring. It typically involves sexual intercourse
between a sexually mature human male and female.
During sexual intercourse, the interaction between
the male and female reproductive systems results in
fertilization of the ovum by the sperm to form a
zygote.
Topic No. 4. Human Reproduction
Female Reproductive System
Topic No. 4. Human Reproduction
Male Reproductive System
Topic No. 5. The Eregenous Zones

THE EROGENOUS ZONE

Erogenous comes from the Greek words "eros" (love) and

"genous" (producing).

- are areas of the body that particularly responsive to tactile

pleasurable part.
PRIMARY EROGENOUS ZONE
● - pertain to areas that contain thick
concentration of nerve ending.The
common erogenous zones include
the armpit, lower abdomen, mouth,
neck, breasts, buttocks,
shoulder,ears ,lips, lower back and
genitals. Stimulating these areas can
encourage relaxation, promote
blood flow, build arousal, enhance
sexual pleasure, and help you or
your partner achieve orgasm.
SECONDARY EROGENOUS ZONE
- zones include all other regions of the
body.
Example;
If one's lover tenderly kissed and
stroked the upper back of his partner
during sexual interplay that areas can
be transformed to an erogenous zone
because they are touched in a context
of sexual intimacies. (Crooks& Caur,
2014)
Topic No. 6. Understanding
Human Sexuality
 Human sexuality is the way people experienced and expressed
themselves as sexual being. This involves biological, psychological,
physical, erotic, emotional, social, or spiritual feelings and
behaviors.

 The Biological and Physical aspects of sexuality largely concern the

human reproductive functions, including the human sexual
response cycle.
Topic No. 6. Understanding
Human Sexuality
 Physical and emotional aspects of sexuality include bonds
between individuals that are expressed through profound
feelings or physical manifestations of love, trust, and care.

 Social aspects deal with the effects of human society on one's

sexuality, while spirituality concerns an individual's spiritual
connection with others.
Topic No. 6. Understanding
Human Sexuality
Normal and Abnormal Sexual Behavior

A.) Normal Sexual Behavior - does not cause discomfort, fear or

shame and, is not coercive.
B.) Abnormal Sexual Behavior - involve sexual body parts in a
manner that are developmentally inappropriate and potentially
harmful to themselves or others.
Topic No. 7. Basic Human
Behavior
1. Masturbation or Solitary Sex

- Years ago some physicians reported that masturbation would lead to a

variety of physical and mental disorders or insanity.

- Masturbation is sexual self-satisfaction.

- Male masturbation is common in the early teens and then slow down,
whereas female, begin to masturbate early with maximum frequency
later.
Topic No. 7. Basic Human
Behavior
2. Heterosexuality

- Is an attraction and behavior toward the other sex.

- Heterosexual behavior of male and female involves the sexual act,

kissing, petting caressing, necking, massaging, and other forms of sex
play.
Topic No. 7. Basic Human
Behavior
3. Premarital Sex

- Refers to sexual activity or intercourse that takes place between

individuals who are not married to each other.

- Premarital sex particularly for women was a major taboo, generally in

the Filipino values.
Topic No. 7. Basic Human
Behavior
4. Marital Sex

- Refers to any sexual activity that takes place within the context of a
marriage. In involves consensual and intimate acts between legally
married partners
.
- Sex in marriage is the most standard and acceptable sexual behavior,
and gnerally the gauge of wedded bliss.
Topic No. 7. Nasic Human
Behavior
5. Extramarital Sex

- Refers to a sexual activity between a married person

and someone who is not his/her spouse or partner.
Topic No. 8 HOMESEXUALITY
AND BISEXUALITY
• HOMOSEXUALS

- Are individuals who are sexually attracted to members of their

own sex whereas bisexual are those who are sexually attracted
to the same sex and other sex.
Topic No. 8 HOMESEXUALITY
AND BISEXUALITY
• TRANSEXUALS

- people experience a gender identity that is inconsistent with their

assigned sex, and desire to permanently transition to the sex or gender
with which they identify, usually seeking medical assistance (including
sex reassignment therapies, such as hormone replacement therapy and
sex reassignment surgery) to help them align their body with their
identified sex or gender.
Topic No. 8 HOMESEXUALITY
AND BISEXUALITY
• TRANSSEXUALISM

- Is part of a wide category known as transgenderism.This term

pertainsnot only transsexual buy also to people who see themselves as
the third gender. Transvestites those who wear clothes of the other
gender or some of them believe that traditional male-female
classification who wrongly characterized themselves.
Topic No. 8 HOMESEXUALITY
AND BISEXUALITY
• ASEXUALITY

- This is another type of sexual orientation where an asexual lacks

attraction to bothmen and women. Unlike celibate (one who does not
have sexual life) an asexual has little or no attraction to either men or
women but can experience sexual desire.
Topic No. 8. HOMESEXUALITY
AND BISEXUALITY
• ANDROGYNY

- This literally means man-woman which refers to having both masculine

and feminine traits,(Croon,2013)

• EXTRADYADIC SEX

- corresponds to sex that occurs in violation of a partner's understanding

that the relationship is monogamous. It is estimated to occur in about
20% of adult romantic relationships (Mark, Janssen, & Milhausen,
20UNDERSTANDING HUMAN RESPONSES
Topic No. 9. Understanding Human
Responses
Why and what circumstances do people become sexually aroused?

All species are biologically sexually aroused. Human sexual behavior is a complicated
matter, although biologically not different from other species. As discussed previously,
male testes start to secret androgens a male sex hormone which produces secondary
sex characteristics, like growth of hair, change of voice widening of shoulder for boys
and enlargement of the breast, widening of the hips for girls. And also increased sex
drives for the boys the production of androgens by the testes is constant making men
capable of sexual activities with no reference to the biological cycle.11).
Topic No. 10 What Turn People On

WHAT TURN PEOPLE ON?

The major factor to consider sexually arousing in one's society

has actually nothing to do with the genitals, instead sexual
arousal is related to external stimuli that due to the process of
learning it comes to be labeled as erotic or sexually stimulating.
 Erogenous zones Erotic stimulus
• the areas of the body that are • essentially as a kind of sensory
sensitive to sexual touch due to cue, is mainly visual such as
the presence of rich arrays of nudity and innuendos.
nerve receptors that are
practically sensitive to any kind
of touch.
• Sexual fantasy likewise plays importantly in
having sexual arousal. And people do
entertain sexual fantasy in their daily
activities and even when having sex with
someone else other than their partners at
the moment.

• Men and women fantasies differ a little from

one another in terms of quantity. Being
irresistible sexually is engaging in oral sex
which is common to both men and women
but thier fantasies do not include desire for
fulfillment.
Topic No. 11 The Phases of Sexual
Responses
Sexual responses follow regular pattern of four phases ?

In the research of Johnson, the most widely accepted account of what

happened when people become sexually excited (Mark&Johnson1994)
1. The Excitement 2. The Plateau
Phase Phase

• this phase last for few

minutes or an hour. Here,
- this is the body's
there is an exciting stimulus preparation for
that starts sequence that organism.
prepares the genital for
sexual activity.
THE PHASES OF SEXUAL RESPONSES
Sexual responses follow regular pattern of four phases ?

In the research of Johnson, the most widely accepted account of what happened
when people become sexually excited (Mark&Johnson1994)
3. Organism 4. The Resolution Phase
• this phase last for few - this is the last stage of sexual arousal. Here, the body
minutes or an hour. Here,
returns to the resting phase where there is a reversal
there is an exciting
brought about by arousal. During resolution stage the
stimulus that starts
men and women responses differ considerably. Women
sequence that prepares
are able to cycle back organism phase and experience
the genital for sexual
repeated organism after it has come to the final
activity.
resolution stage then returns to the pre-stimulation
state. In contrast men come to a refractory period
where men cannot come to another erection and
ejaculation.
Amygdale - the set of emotion in the brain showed different
reaction in men than women.
Topic No. 12 Sexual Problems

-It can refer to a wide

range of issues that affect a
person's ability to engage
in or enjoy sexual activity.
SOME SEXUAL PROBLEMS
RELATED TO SEXUAL
PERFORMANCES
 SOME SEXUAL PROBLEMS RELATED TO SEXUAL
PERFORMANCES
ERECTILE PREMATURE INHIBITED
DYSFUNCTION EJACULATION EJACULATION
-Here the male is not able to
- In this problem, the
- This is the inability of a male to come
hold his orgasm longer than man is not able to
up or maintain an erection. It is a
RARE CASE of a male who has he wishes, because his wish ejaculate when he
never experienced erection. to delay the orgasm wants to.
- It is due to alcohol, drugs, fear of depends on his partner's -For women there is
sexual performances, anxiety and attitude and opinion on
other factors. Due significantly to
ANORGASMIA,
how long the orgasm meaning lack of
modern treatment erectile
should be. This problem is
dysfunction found some remedy
difficult to diagnose.
orgasm.
through the drug VIAGRA.
There are two of Inhibited Ejaculation

•PRIMARY
ORGASMIC •SECONDARY
DYSFUNCTION ORGASMIC
-women never - a women had
experience experience
orgasm. orgasm.
SOME SEXUAL PROBLEMS RELATED TO SEXUAL
PERFORMANCES

•INHIBITED SEXUAL DESIRE

-This happens when sexual act has no motivation or is restricted.

-When people with sexual inhibition have no sexual feeling would be

turned off sexually that they must have some kind of SEXUAL
AMNESIA.
 Topic No. 13 Sexually
Transmitted Infection (STIs)

• Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) are a result of

sexual activity and can cause discomfort and
psychological distress. The major STIs include
Chlamydia, Genital Herpes, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, and
AIDS.
● Chlamydia

Chlamydia is a common STI that often shows no

symptoms in women but can cause discomfort and
discharge in men. If left untreated in women, it can
lead to serious complications like pelvic
inflammation and infertility. The infection can be
treated with antibiotics once diagnosed.
● Genital Herpes

Genital Herpes manifests as small blisters or sores around

the genitals, causing pain. The sores heal but can reoccur
multiple times a year. The infection cannot be cured,
leading to psychological distress and potential transmission
to sexual partners.
ion can be treated with antibiotics once diagnosed.
● Gonorrhea

Gonorrhea is the longest recognized by scientists.

This infection has no symptoms but can cause
burning sensation when urinating and discharge in
the penis or vagina. Gonorrhea may result to
infertility in men and pelvic inflammation in
women. Antibiotic can cure this infection but not
completely.

● Syphilis

Syphilis initially presents as a small wound at the point of

sexual contact and progresses to rashes. If diagnosed early,
it can be cured with antibiotics. If left untreated, it can
affect the brain, heart, and fetus.
● AIDS

Aids caused by the Human Immunodeficiency Virus

(HIV), has had a severe impact on sexual behavior
and society. It destroys the immune system and is
transmitted through semen and blood. It was
initially found among gay men but spread to other
populations. AIDS has caused significant damage
and is a leading cause of death.
Topic No. 14 Methods of
Contraceptives
It cannot be said that due to the negative impact of
sexually transmitted diseases sexuality, sexual
behavior, sexual fulfillment and ecstasy cannot be
condom because these are parts of the human
persons .However, this sexuality be channeled
toward ethical sexual behavior not sexual
liberation. Human sexual power should be
procreative, an expression of sexual energy to a
kind of relationship that procreate.

Generally, procreation is the basic reason for the

sexual act hence couples should have this in mind.
Literature on contraceptives gives the flowing (San
Juan & Centeno, 2014).
Topic No. 15 Natural Methods

Calendar method
 helps you predict your fertile
days by tracking the length of
your menstrual cycles over
several months..
The Cervical Mucus Method
 To use the Cervical Mucus Method to prevent
pregnancy, you check out your mucus every day
and write the results on a chart. The changes in
your mucus help you figure out when you're going
to ovulate and are able to get pregnant. During your
safe days, you can have unprotected vaginal sex.

Basal Body Temperature

 Your basal body temperature is your temperature
when you're fully at rest. Ovulation may cause a
slight increase in basal body temperature. You'll be
most fertile during the two to three days before
your temperature rises. By tracking your basal body
temperature each day, you may be able to predict
when you'll ovulate.
Symptothermal Method
● A fertility awareness method
used to predict when a woman
might be fertile. The method
uses body temperature and
other signs and symptoms of
ovulation
Abstinence
● is preventing pregnancy by not
having sexual contact or any
other sexual activity in which
semen may come in contact
with the vulva, the outer female
vagina.
Douche
 is done by washing the sperm and semen deposited
in vagina with medical solution just after the sexual
contact. This method cannot be reliable because
some sperms may have gotten inside the vaginal
before douching.

Withdrawal
 This is the withdrawal of the penis from the vagina
prior to ejaculation. Because it is difficult to time
the ejaculation, some sperms might be release in
the vagina before the complete ejaculation. This
method is not reliable for preventing pregnancy and
not psychological due to frustration on both
partners.
Prolong Lactation or Lactatonal
Amernorrhea (LAM)
● LAM is considered natural
contraceptive that protect the
woman from pregnancy
particularly during the first
6months after giving birth.
Topic No. 16 Artificial Methods

Pill or Oral contraceptive

-This is a tablet of man-made hormone called estrogen
and progesterone imitating the hormone in the
female's body.
-Usually, the woman has to take this pill regularly for
21 days in the menstrual cycle.
 These hormones are of two kinds:

1. Combined oral contraceptive (COC)

-this controls the maturing of the egg cell and
prevents its release from the ovary.
2. Progesterone only pill (POP)
- this changes the lining of the uterus and the
consistency of the cervical mucus.
 The morning after pill
- Is an emergency birth control which prevents a woman from pregnancy even after
unprotected sex act.
- This morning-after pill is called Postinor
- Here in the Philippines, this Postinor which is injected to the women every 3
months is an abortion causing pill.

Implants
- Implants are matchstick-size rubber silicon, rods, capsules or tubes containing
progesterone.
Implants
Surgical Method or Sterilization
- This method can stop the sperms and egg cell from meeting in
the fallopian tube by cutting or tying fallopian tube through
hospital or clinic operation.
Surgical Method or Sterilization
Vasectomy
-For male sterilization is done by cutting or searing the two
deferens, the tube carrying the sperms from the testes to
the penis, to stop the sperms from mixing the seminal fluid.
-Permanent and irreversible back surgery, a 15-20 minutes
operation.
Vasectomy
 Male Condom or Prophylactic Latex

-The condom is a synthetic or artificial sheath worn

over the penis before sexual act to prevent the
sperms from entering the uterus.
Male Condom or Prophylactic Latex
Diaphragm or Cervical Cap
- This cap is a thin rubber bowl-shaped disk with flexible rim that fits on top of
the vagina to cover the cervix and prevent the sperms from its entrance to the
vagina and reaching the egg inside.

- This diaphragm should be fitted 2-3 hours before sexual contact and be
removed some hours after.
Diaphragm or Cervical Cap
Sponge
- Is a doughnut-shape device of spongy materials that has
spermicide.
-Before it is inserted prior to sexual act, it should be moistened
and let it stay in place for about six hours after, but it can
stay for 24 hours is sexual contact is repeated.
Sponge
Topic 17.

Love and attachment:

What is Love?
 Love is a crucial aspect of human beings, enhancing their
rationality, freedom, and responsibility. It is difficult to
define, but researchers focus on attachment, intimacy,
companionship, and infatuation. Physical science studies
suggest romantic couples have oxytocin and serotonin levels.
Love is patient, kind, and not self-seeking. It rejoices in truth
and always truts, hopes, and perceives. The interpretation of
love depends on a person's feelings.
 Topic 18.

Functions of dating
 The function of dating is to establish a romantic or potentially long-term
relationship between two individuals. Dating allows people to get to
know each other on a deeper level, explore compatibility, and build
emotional connections. It serves as a way to find a suitable partner with
whom one can share experiences, values, and goals.

Dating also provides an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery.

Through dating, individuals can learn more about themselves, their
preferences, and what they are looking for in a partner. It allows them to
develop social skills, improve communication, and practice empathy and
understanding.
Additionally, dating can be a source of enjoyment and
companionship. It offers the chance to engage in fun
activities, create memories, and share intimate moments
with someone special. It can bring excitement, happiness,
and fulfillment to people's lives.

Ultimately, the function of dating is to form meaningful

connections with others, explore romantic possibilities, and
potentially find a compatible partner for a fulfilling and
loving relationship.
Topic 19.
Types of Love
 After dating,one is now ready for Love. Love takes
varied forms. There is love betweeen parents and
children. There is love between friends called philia,
and ancient Greek work whichc refers to concern
for the well fare of others.
 Love is a felling that is complex than liking making it
dfficult to measure. Love is what people longed for,
live for, and even die for.
Passionate love
 is a type of intense and emotional love that is often
characterized by strong physical attraction, infatuation, and a
desire for intimacy and closeness with another person. It is often
associated with the early stages of a romantic relationship and
can be accompanied by feelings of euphoria, excitement, and
obsession. However, passionate love may not always be
sustainable over the long term and can sometimes fade as the
relationship progresses.
Companionate love
 is a type of love that emphasizes the importance of
friendship and trust in a relationship. It is not just about
romantic love, but rather about a deep connection and bond
between two people who have been together for a long
time, such as married couples or long-time friends.
Companionate love provides happiness and security in a
relationship.
Passion:
 is a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement about
something. It is often described as a driving force that
motivates individuals to pursue their goals and dreams.
Passion can be directed towards a wide range of interests,
including hobbies, careers, relationships, and personal
growth. It is often seen as a key factor in achieving success
and personal fulfillment, as it provides individuals with a
sense of purpose and direction in life. Whether it is a
passion for art, music, sports, or any other pursuit, the
ability to channel that passion into action is essential for
achieving one's full potential.
Intimacy:
 is a term that refers to a close and personal relationship
between two individuals. It involves a deep level of
emotional and physical connection, including feelings of
trust, vulnerability, and affection. Intimacy can be expressed
in a variety of ways, including through physical touch, verbal
communication, and shared experiences. It is often seen as a
key factor in building strong and healthy relationships,
whether it is a romantic partnership or a close friendship.
The ability to cultivate intimacy requires a willingness to be
open and honest with others, as well as a commitment to
building trust and mutual respect.
Commitment:
 is a term that refers to the dedication and loyalty to a
particular cause, activity, or person. It involves a willingness
to prioritize and make sacrifices for the sake of the
commitment, and it is often seen as a key factor in achieving
success and personal fulfillment. Whether it is a
commitment to a job, a relationship, or a personal goal, the
ability to stay dedicated and focused is essential for
achieving long-term success.
Topic 20.

Why do people
fall in love?
Fall in love when and whom is quite a
complex matter. There are some
scientists and psychologists who gave
these following ideas
People fall in love to overcome
lonelines and seperateness
People desire a form of union is the
deepest need of human person.
People when they ate in their own
solitariness,longed for a refuge in
union and in love.
Proximity- the geographical proximity of one person to another, is a key
factor in interpersonal attraction. It often develops in close contact with
people in various settings, such as neighborhoods, schools, social
groups, or worships. The mere exposure effect increases an individual's
liking for new stimuli.
Similarity -influences love, as people often gravitate towards those with
similar interests, beliefs, attitudes, and intellectual abilities. Physical
attractiveness, goals, values, and personality characteristics also
contribute to romantic relationships. Age, education, religion, and social
and personal inclination also influence attraction.
Reciprocity -is the belief that a person perceives interest in
another person, reflected in the principle of reciprocity.
When someone reciprocates a compliment or compliment, it
leads to increased liking and self-esteem.
Physical Attractiveness- Physical beauty plays an important
role in drawing people together. Although there is a saying
that beauty is just skin deep but experimens prove
otherwise physical attractive people are sought after as
friends or loves.
Topic 21.

Love and attachment:

What is Love?
 According to the Miriam-Webster Dictionary, love is a feeling of strong or constant affection
for a person. According to the Bible, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does
not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily
angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the
truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (Corinthians 13:4-
7)

 One characteristic of man that shows his being a person is his capacity to love. Like man's
rationality, freedom and responsibility, his power to love have added to his being a person.
(Bernardo, 2016).

 Researchers try to be more comfortable measuring the idea of attachment, intimacy,

companionship, and infatuation which are related to and always treated as measure of love.
Some studies in physical science says that there is a level of oxytocin and serotonin in
romantic couples.

So what is really love?

 Topic 22.

Common Misconception about

Love and Sex
Why Misconceptions?
 Love is sometimes thought to equate sex.
 Sex is considered obscene and vulgar; therefore there is
secrecy.
 Secrecy leads to ignorance and misinformation.
Topic 23.

Love Myths
First MYTH: LOVE IS BLIND
If you love someone, you cannot see any faults in that person.

The TRUTH is "It sees but it does not mind"

 As people fall in love, the brain consistently releases a
certain set of chemicals, similar to amphetamines.
 It stimulates the brain's pleasure center and leading to side
effects such as increased heart rate, loss of appetite and
sleep, and an intense feeling of excitement.
Second MYTH: JEALOUSY PROVES LOVE
A little jealousy always shows that you're afraid to lose that
person.People say being jealous is the sign of infatuation but
everyone will agree that they have felt this emotion for a
person whom they love, at least once.

The TRUTH is JEALOUSY PROVES INSECURITY AND FEAR

 In essence jealousy is replacement fear. When you're jealous
you are afraid of being replaced by another person in the
heart, mind and life of someone you find important.
Third MYTH: REAL LOVE means "I can't live without you."
This statement more likely represents someone in a dependency state of
one kind or another. It even may reveal someone experiencing the
rather extreme state of infantile dependency and mistakenly thinking it’s
love. Infants cannot survive without the real love and care of adults.

The TRUTH is It is a sign of infantile dependency and mistakenly thinking it

is LOVE
 REAL LOVE relationship should characterize mutually equality- based,
interdependent unlons, not addictive co-dependent or infantile,
dependency-based, parasitical-like relationships.
Fourth MYTH: Love at First Sight
Love at first sight is the experience of starting to be in love with someone as
soon as you see them for the first time.This is because love develops
over time as you begin to love the other person's mind, values and skills.

The TRUTH is that attraction and love are two very different things
 Mutual attraction helps people go 'psychologically toward' each other
and want to keep going toward each other.Real love can develop after
attraction brings people into contact but there are lots of times when it
does not.
Fifth MYTH: LOVE equals SEX
As seen from the aforementioned points, having sex and making love are
two distinct acts and the former is more associated with getting a quality
physical pleasure through proper stimulation whereas making love
requires getting both sexual pleasure and love.

The TRUTH is the society's emphasis on romantic love resulted in the

formation of this myth
 The emphasis on romantic love exclude other forms of love such as
friendship love, self-love and altruistic love, therefore connecting sex as
one way of showing and enacting love.
Sixth MYTH: Being LOVING meant one always had to give in
and say YES

You're afraid people will think poorly of you

The TRUTH is Saying "no" is often an act of healthy love.

 truth is that those who say "no" well are often respected,
liked and sometimes even loved more than those who
reluctantly get talked into saying "yes" too much.
Seventh MYTH: AGE doesn't MATTER
Many people assume that age-gap couples fare poorly when it comes to
relationship outcomes.

The TRUTH is it really doesn't matter. But, couples who have wide age
differences quite often do face struggles with age prejudice.
 Love between age similar people historically seldom has been the
accepted or the preferred style. It wasn't until democracy began to catch
on in the 1700's that love, sex and marriage between people more
similar in age started to gain real popularity in some avant-garde, liberal
circles.
Topic 21.

Sex Myths
First Myth:
EVERYONE IS HAVING SEX AND IT REALLY ISN'T A BIG DEAL

Second Myth:
ORAL SEX IS NOT SEX
Third Myth:
SEX IS ALWAYS A WONDERFUL AND PLEASURABLE EXPERIENCE

Fourth Myth:
SOME PEOPLE CAN BECOME CLOSER AND FIND LOVE THROUGH SEX
Fifth Myth:
PERIOD SEX IS SAFE SEX

Sixth Myth:
IT'S THE GIRLS RESPONSIBILITY NOT TO GET PREGNANT
Seventh Myth:
HAVING SEX WILL HELP TO KEEP SOMEONE IN A RELATIONSHIP

Eight Myth:
BLEEDING AT FIRST INTERCOURSE IS THE SUREST SIGN OF VIRGINITY
Ninth Myth:
A PERSON USING PUBLIC TOILET GETS SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE

Tenth Myth:
YOU FAN LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY BY HAVING A PAP SMEAR
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