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Introduction
Bereavement
Bereavement refers to the period of
mourning and grief following the death
of a beloved person or animal.
Mourning is the word that is used to
describe the public rituals or symbols of
bereavement, such as holding funeral
services, wearing black clothing, closing
a place of business temporarily, or
lowering a flag to half mast.
Grief refers to one's personal experience
of loss; it includes physical symptoms as
well as emotional and spiritual reactions
to the loss.
While public expressions of mourning
are usually time-limited, grief is a
process that takes most people several
months or years to work through.
Causes and symptoms
Causes
The immediate cause of bereavement is
usually the death of a loved friend or relative.
There are a number of situations, however,
which can affect or prolong the grief process:
The relationship with the dead person was a
source of pain rather than love and support.
Examples would include an abusive parent
or spouse.
The person died in military service or in
a natural, transportation, or workplace
disaster.
The person was murdered.
The person is missing and presumed
dead but their death has not been
verified.
The person committed suicide..
The relationship with the dead person
cannot be openly acknowledged. This
situation often leads to what is called
disenfranchised grief..
The loved one was an animal rather
than a human being.
Symptoms
Bereavement typically affects a person's
physical well-being as well as emotions.
Common symptoms of grief include
changes in appetite and weight, fatigue,
insomnia and other sleep disturbances,
loss of interest in sex, low energy levels,
nausea and vomiting, chest or throat
pain, and headache.
People who have lost a loved one in
traumatic circumstances may have such
symptoms of
post-traumatic stress disorder as an
exaggerated startle response, visual or
auditory hallucinations, or high levels of
muscular tension.
Counselors have identified four stages or
phases in uncomplicated bereavement:
Shock, disbelief, feelings of numbness.
This initial phase lasts about two weeks,
during which the bereaved person finally
accepts the reality of the loved one's
death.
Suffering the pain of grief. This phase
typically lasts for several months. Some
people undergo a mild temporary
depression about six months after the
loved one's death.
Adjusting to life without the loved one. In
this phase of bereavement, survivors
may find themselves taking on the loved
one's roles and responsibilities as well as
redefining their own identities.
Moving forward with life, forming new
relation-ships, and having positive
expectations of the future. Most people
reach this stage within one to two years
after the loved one's death.
As people get older, bereavements
occur more frequently. Older people
commonly endure loss of a husband,
wife or partner, other relatives, friends,
former colleagues and associates.
Widowhood is usual and because
women generally live longer there are
more widowed women than men.
Loss through bereavement is a major
stress on older people, and along with
other losses experienced in old age, can
reduce people’s ability to cope and be
independent.
How does bereavement affect older
people?
Older people’s responses vary greatly and
coping with loss is not necessarily a by-
product of being older. Other losses in an
older person’s life will affect how they
grieve the loss of someone close:
existing health conditions
communication and cognitive difficulties
reduced social support
changed living arrangements i.e. moving
to sheltered housing
financial difficulties.
reciprocal support of and for family and
friends
better health for longer
financial stability
ability to work or contribute to society in
a range of ways.
Loss of Independence in Old Age
Loss of independence occurs as people
age, as they suffer physical, social or
emotional setbacks which prevent them
from functioning independently.
The key to this loss of independence is
how easy people find to accept help
Physical and Mental Losses
These can include:
Forgetting appointments and day-to-day
tasks
Having difficulty climbing stairs or
getting in and out of the bath
No longer able to walk long distances
Vision problems
Less control over emotions
Less physical energy
Less flexibility
Hearing problems
Less ability to move easily
Memory problems
Lower levels of stamina
Social Loss
Going out to eat
Playing sport
Going to parties
Visiting places
Emotional Loss
Loss of independence can create
tremendous frustration, feelings of
uselessness, and sadness, due to a
sense of loss of control in one’s life.
Typical reactions to loss of
independence
Reactions are often complicated. These can
include:
• Fear Some people become frightened by
their new vulnerability, wondering how they
will manage on their own.
Overwhelmed, they begin to expect close
friends and family to be always available for
them and become overly dependent
• Anger. Others feel angry that they can
no longer manage on their own and may
take their anger out on their loved ones
• Guilt. Others feel guilty and refuse
help from family and friends, because
they think they will be a burden
• Confusion. It is not uncommon for
people to feel confused about needing
help and long for “what was”
How can you help the elderly to cope
with their loss of independence?
Be patient with them.
It takes time for them to acknowledge their
losses and to understand how these are
affecting their life now
Help them understand that losing
independence is a common experience as
people age, and not a sign of personal
failure
Help them to recognize their feelings and
that it’s OK to feel sad and frustrated at
times without putting themselves down
for not being able to do what they used to
do
Try to get them to listen to your
suggestions about how to make things
easier. This is not always easy to do, but
there are many ways to keep your elderly
relative engaged and interested
Try to help them to maintain
relationships with loving and caring
friends and family
Work out what help they need and try to
encourage them to accept it
Seek help from your GP if you are
worried either with your parent or alone
Health Problems in Old Age
Key facts
Dementia is a syndrome – usually of a
chronic or progressive nature – in which
there is deterioration in cognitive function
(i.e. the ability to process thought) beyond
what might be expected from normal ageing.
It affects memory, thinking, orientation,
comprehension, calculation, learning
capacity, language, and judgement.
Consciousness is not affected.
The impairment in cognitive function is
commonly accompanied, and
occasionally preceded, by deterioration
in emotional control, social behaviour, or
motivation.
Dementia is caused by a variety of
diseases and injuries that primarily or
secondarily affect the brain, such as
Alzheimer's disease or stroke.
Signs and symptoms
Dementia affects each person in a
different way, depending upon the
impact of the disease and the person’s
personality before becoming ill.
The signs and symptoms linked to
dementia can be understood in three
stages.
Early stage: the early stage of dementia
is often overlooked, because the onset
is gradual.
Common symptoms include:
forgetfulness
losing track of the time
becoming lost in familiar places.
Middle stage: as dementia progresses to the
middle stage, the signs and symptoms become
clearer and more restricting. These include:
becoming forgetful of recent events and
people's names
becoming lost at home
having increasing difficulty with communication
needing help with personal care
experiencing behaviour changes, including
wandering and repeated questioning.
Late stage: the late stage of dementia is one of
near total dependence and inactivity. Memory
disturbances are serious and the physical signs
and symptoms become more obvious.
Symptoms include:
becoming unaware of the time and place
having difficulty recognizing relatives and friends
having an increasing need for assisted self-care
having difficulty walking
experiencing behaviour changes that may
escalate and include aggression.
Treatment and care
There is no treatment currently available to
cure dementia or to alter its progressive
course. Numerous new treatments are
being investigated in various stages of
clinical trials.
Much can be, however, offered to support
and improve the lives of people with
dementia and their caregivers and families.
The principal goals for dementia care are:
early diagnosis
optimizing physical health, cognition,
activity and well-being
identifying and treating accompanying
physical illness
detecting and treating behavioural and
psychological symptoms
providing information and long-term
support to caregivers.
Loneliness in Old Age