TOPIC 2

Personal Relationship –
Attraction, Love and
Commitment
 Objectives
1. Express your ways of showing attraction, love, and
commitment.
1.1 Identify the different components of attractions, types
of love, and how it develops into commitment;
1.2 Determine the importance of expressing attraction,
love and commitment;
and 1.3 Share your experiences on how you show
affections toward another person or people.
 Activity Time
Below are different expressions of yours toward other
people. Now, think of a particular person that first
comes in your mind when you feel such expression. Put
their name under each face or just write how you are
related to them
 Quote for the day
Being deeply loved by someone
gives you strength, while loving
someone deeply gives you courage.
—Lao Tzu
 Attraction
The Merriam-Webster dictionary, collegiately
defined attraction as: the action or power of
evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for
someone or something; and a quality or
feature that evokes interest, liking, or desire
 Physical Attractiveness
Attractive people draw out a more positive
first impression. Initially, people tend to be
influenced by what they see. Even the
younger ones prefer to look at faces those
adults consider attractive rather than at
opposite ones (Langlois, et.al. 1991).
 Physical Attractiveness
Our perception of beauty, though, differs
from one another since it can be influenced
by culture, educational background, social
status, etc. Everyone has his/her idea of what
or who is attractive based on physical
appearance.
 Similarity
Many researches support that similarity causes
attraction. Oftentimes, people classify other people
based on information they already knew about them.
That is social categorization, wherein, people mentally
group others on where they belong and that with the
same characteristics with them, like group age,
religion, personality, attitude, social status, or
education
 Proximity
One of the important aspects of any relationship is distance.
Proximity pertains to physical distance with other people and
it is related to functional distance (how often people interact
or communicate with each other). The more you encounter
or interact with the person, the more you allow yourself to
get to know him/her better which leads to a better
relationship like friendship or intimate relationship. Most
likely, the people always near you just like your classmate or
neighbor has a big tendency to become your friend.
 Reciprocity
We tend to get along with people or with
someone whom we have the same feelings
toward. It is called reciprocity. It is when feelings
with someone are being reciprocated or
returned in the same way as you do
 Love
It appears that the word Love has many meanings. Some
definitions in the Meriam-Webster dictionary are:
(a) strong affection for another arising out of kinship or
personal ties;
(b) attraction based on sexual desire: affection and
tenderness felt by lovers;
(c) affection based on admiration, benevolence, or
common interests
 Love
These seven types of love are loosely based on
classical readings, especially of Plato and
Aristotle, and on JA Lee’s 1973 book, Colors of
Love.
 1. Eros
Eros is sexual or passionate love, and most akin to the
modern construct of romantic love. In Greek myth, it
is a form of madness brought about by one of Cupid’s
arrows. The arrow breaches us and we "fall" in love,
as did Paris with Helen, leading to the downfall of
Troy and much of the assembled Greek army.
 2. Philia
The hallmark of philia, or friendship, is shared
goodwill. Aristotle believed that a person can bear
goodwill to another for one of three reasons: that he is
useful; that he is pleasant; and above all, that he is
good, that is, rational and virtuous. Friendships
founded on goodness are associated not only with
mutual benefit but also with companionship,
dependability, and trust.
 3. Storge
Storge is one of the Greek variations of love, which
describe different aspects of love, or ways to love
other people. Most often, storge is described as the
love shared between parents and their children. More
generally, it describes a bond created through
dependency or familiarity.
 4. Agape
Agape ["aga-pay"] is universal love, such as the love
for strangers, nature, or God. Agape, in the New
Testament the fatherly love of God for humans, as well
as the human reciprocal love for God. In Scripture
the transcendent agape love is the highest form of
love.
 5. Ludus
Ludus is playful or uncommitted love. It can
involve activities such as teasing and dancing, or
more overt flirting, seducing, and conjugating.
The focus is on fun, and sometimes also on
conquest, with no strings attached.
 6. Pragma
This is a committed, compassionate love that
often grows as two partners continue to cherish
and care for each other. This type of love is
associated with being together for a long time. In
some cases, the passion of eros can grow into
pragma over time, this forging a lasting bond.
 7. Philautia
Philautia, finally, is self-love, which can be healthy or
unhealthy. Unhealthy self-love is akin to hubris. In
Ancient Greece, people could be accused of hubris if
they placed themselves above the gods, or, like certain
modern politicians, above the greater good. Many
believed that hubris led to destruction, or nemesis.
 7. Philautia
Healthy self-love, on the other hand, is akin to self-
esteem, which is our cognitive and, above all, emotional
appraisal of our own worth. More than that, it is the
matrix through which we think, feel, and act, and
reflects on our relation to ourselves, to others, and to
the world.
 Commitment
It is a long-term relationship between individuals. A
more complex relationship that resulted to increasingly
turn to each other not only for social support but also
for help in coordinating activities, remembering dates
and appointments, and accomplishing tasks (Wegner,
Erber, & Raymond, 1991).
 Commitment
Many people say that for you to be able to have a
successful relationship, you should know your
similarities and differences; understand your
partner’s needs and desires; and invest time and
effort to work things out and last for a lifetime.
 Commitment
Dr. Rajiv Jhangiani and Dr. Hammond Tarry reiterated the
Slotter et al., 2011 that “commitment refers to the feelings
and action that keep partners working together to maintain
the relationship”. Any relationship will last through the
cooperation of both parties, without this, the relationship will
not last and ends with breaking up. Commitment is a choice,
a long and not an easy process that needs to be participated by
you and your partner.
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