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SKILLS-WEEK 2
By : Sanam Wasif
 Introduction
Week 2 Agenda:

 Bridging the confidence Gap-Use action-oriented approach towards life

 Develop confident attitude through reshaping Self-Image and Mind Set- Growth vs Fixed Mind Set

 Personal SWOT
 Seven habits of highly effective people
 Introduction
Essential Readings :

Purdie, J. (2012). Life coaching for dummies. Chichester, West Sussex, England: John Wiley &
Sons

Further Readings :

 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

 Dyer, J., Gregersen, H., and Christensen, C.M. (2011). The Innovator’s DNA: Mastering the
Five Skills of Disruptive Innovators. ISBN: 978-1422134818
 What Is the Confidence Gap?

◦ Psychotherapist Russ Harris provides an approach to dealing effectively with the negative,
limiting thoughts and fears that prevent you from achieving your goals; known as the
Confidence Gap

◦ Confidence gap is the misconception that you can only live your life in a rich and fulfilling way
—doing the activities, meeting the people, and gaining the skills that matter to you—once
you become confident.

◦ You can build confidence by relating differently to your thoughts and fears,
 Bridge the Confidence Gap: How to Build Confidence That Lasts

◦ Replacing your self-doubt with positive action is a great strategy to build

confidence, follow this 3-step process:

1.Implement tiny steps

2.Measure your results
3.Change and adapt
 3 Steps For Bridging “The Confidence Gap”

1. Clearly Define Your Values & Goals

◦ A crucial first step in the confidence building process is to make a personal
road map.
◦ By breaking overarching dreams into manageable, actionable tasks, you create
a tangible road map.
2. Discover Your Risk-Taking Muscles
◦ Once you have your road map, it’s time to push forward one step at a time.
That means taking risks!
3. Get Support Through Mentorship
 Harris’s Steps For Bridging “The Confidence Gap

A) Detach From Negative Thoughts

◦ Detaching (what Harris calls “defusing”) is the process of seeing the thought not as an
objective truth but rather as merely a string of words with no foundation in reality.
◦ To start working on overcoming the confidence gap, you can practice detaching from
your thoughts in three steps:
Step 1: Recognize the negative thought: Recognize when you’re having a negative
thought by familiarizing yourself with four common types:
• Barriers: Your mind highlights the obstacles that stand between you and your goal.
• Self-judgments: Your mind creates critical judgments about you.
• Comparisons: Your mind compares you unfavorably to others.
• Predictions: Your mind predicts overwhelmingly negative outcomes.
◦ Step 2: Label the thought: Once you’ve recognized what type of negative thought you’re
having, label it in your mind.
◦ Step 3: Detach from the thought: Now that you’ve labeled the negative thought, you can
detach from it.
B) Make Room for Your Fear
◦ When trying to bridge the confidence gap by taking on a new challenge, you’ll often
experience the thoughts and feelings of fear. You can deal with fear by making mental
room for it (a step he calls “expansion”).

C) Be Present in What You’re Doing

◦ You’ve now detached from your thoughts and made room for your fear so that you can
complete the tasks you want to without letting those thoughts and fears dictate your
actions. The next part of bridging the confidence gap is to be more present in the task
you’re doing (the task that moves you closer to your goals). This will allow you to
become better at it, writes Harris.
 Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset

◦ A growth mindset means that you believe your intelligence and talents can be developed
over time.
◦ A fixed mindset means that you believe intelligence is fixed—so if you’re not good at
something, you might believe you’ll never be good at it.

◦ Dr. Carol Dweck describes the two main ways people think about intelligence or ability
as having either:

• A fixed mindset: in this mindset, people believe that their intelligence is fixed and static.
• A growth mindset: in this mindset, people believe that intelligence and talents
can be improved through effort and learning.
 How to develop a growth mindset
◦ Researchers have found that it is possible to promote a growth mindset by teaching students about
neuroscience evidence showing the brain is malleable and improves through effort.

◦ There are several ways to develop a growth mindset:

1. Realize that, scientifically, you can improve

◦ One of the most direct methods of fostering a growth mindset is by understanding our brains are built to
grow and learn. By challenging yourself with new experiences, you can form or strengthen neural
connections to ‘rewire’ your brain which, in turn, can make you smarter.
2. Remove the ‘fixed mindset’ inner voice

◦ Many people have a negative inner voice that acts against a growth mindset. Try to flip thoughts such as ‘I
can’t do this’, to ‘I can do this if I keep practicing’ to nurture a growth mindset.
3. Reward the process

◦ Although society often rewards those who achieve excellent outcomes, this can work against a growth mindset. Instead,
reward the process and the effort exerted. One study by Dr. Carol Dweck showed that rewarding effort over results on a maths
game improved performance.

4. Get feedback

◦ Try and seek feedback on your work. When students are provided with progressive feedback about what they did well and
where they can improve, it creates motivation to keep going. Feedback is also associated with a pleasurable dopamine
response and enhances a growth mindset.
5. Get out of your comfort zone

◦ Being brave enough to leave your comfort zone can help foster a growth mindset. When faced with a challenge, try to choose
the harder option that will allow you to grow.
6. Accept failure as part of the process

◦ Failure, setbacks, and initial confusion are all part of the learning process! When trying something new,see occasional
‘failures’ as positive learning opportunities—try to enjoy the discovery process along the way.
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 Choosing your Beliefs

◦ Perhaps you have a pretty clear idea of what you want to change or improve in your life, such as
becoming more assertive or starting your own business

◦ You may even have formulated a plan, but somehow you never really got going with it.

◦ What’s going on? Are you simply weak or lazy? I’d guess you’ve beaten yourself up on this count a
number of times in your life.

◦ The good news is that the reason you’re blocked may have nothing to do with weakness or laziness
 Choosing your Beliefs

◦ You may well be blocked because, deep down, maybe you don’t believe you’re capable of executing
your plan.

◦ Or even worse, you don’t really believe that you deserve to be happier than you are at the moment.

◦ Having the power of a strong belief system can catapult you into action.

◦ You can choose the beliefs that will support you and how to turn down beliefs that hold you back.
 Understanding How Your Beliefs Shape You

Belief Definition: “A belief is simply a feeling of conviction about something, specifically about yourself”

◦ Beliefs are assumptions and convictions we hold to be true based on past experiences.

◦ Strong positive beliefs about something are the foundation for action.

◦ Holding negative beliefs or beliefs that no longer serve you well have the opposite effect and keeps you
stuck.
 Where do your beliefs come from?

◦ Beliefs learnt or given to you in childhood can be very powerful

◦ If the beliefs are negative, they can really hold you back from seeing and then fulfilling your true
potential.

Do Activity:
Step 1 : Have you ever experienced a time when something you utterly believed in turned out to be
different to what you thought?
Step 2 : Did your strongly held belief propel you into acting with conviction, for good or ill?
 What do your beliefs give you?

◦ Many of your beliefs are so much a part of you that you rarely have a good, objective look at them.

◦ On face value, all your beliefs may look perfectly reasonable to you.

◦ Building a strong positive belief system starts with getting rid of your negative beliefs.

◦ You can defeat your limiting belief through repeated positive statements that help to change your
thinking patterns.
 Getting Clear on Your Values

◦ Values are stable long-lasting beliefs about what is important to a person.

◦ Values are the standards by which people order their lives and make their choices.

◦ A belief will develop into a value when the person's commitment to it grows and they see it as being
important.

◦ Possessing the right value and belief systems may influence our motivation with a specific task.
 Video Links
◦ employees will be motivated when they share similar values as the organization they are working for
and when their work produces valued results to them .

◦ Videos on Beliefs, Values and Behaviors :

1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKtf5yjZ5t0

2. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7XF6jMsaP0
 Personal SWOT
◦ A personal SWOT analysis is a tool used to evaluate your career goals.
◦ SWOT stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats.
◦ It considers all factors, whether positive, negative, external or internal.
Internal factors are elements you bring to the analysis, such as strengths and
weaknesses.
◦ When conducting a personal SWOT analysis, first set a goal.
◦ Do you want a new job or a new responsibility in your current position? Are
you looking for personal growth or to go in a different direction? With your
goal in mind, ask yourself questions about each of the four areas. It’s important
to be as honest as possible with your answers.
 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
◦ Covey’s seven habits are composed of the primary principles of character upon which happiness and
success are based.
◦ The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People puts forward a principle-centered approach to both personal
and interpersonal effectiveness.
◦ Rather than focusing on altering the outward manifestations of your behavior and attitudes, it aims to
adapt your inner core, character, and motives.
◦ The seven habits are as follows:
1.Be proactive
2.Begin with the end in mind
3.Put first things first
4.Think win/win
5.Seek to understand first, before making yourself understood
6.Learn to synergize
7.Sharpen the saw