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 LESSON 1
Knowing Oneself

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 Objective
Understanding
oneself DURING
middle and late
adolescence
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 Content Standard

The learners demonstrate

an understanding of
himself/herself during
middle and late
adolescence.
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Performance Standard

The learners shall be able

to conduct self-
exploration and simple
disclosure.
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Learning Competencies
The learners...
1.1 explain that knowing oneself can make a person
accept his/her strengths and limitations and dealing
with others better (EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.1)

1.2 share his/her unique characteristics, habits,

and experiences (EsP-PD11/12KO- Ia-1.2)

1.3 maintain a journal (EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.3)

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Lesson 1: Knowing Oneself
1. Understanding the Self
2. Idealized Self & Actual Self
3.Healthy Well-being

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Caught In The Rain
 Not everything in life is predictable.
We’re always getting hit by surprises,
emergencies, and unforeseen disasters
without any chance to prepare ourselves
mentally. Surprises by any kind can be
stressful – an unexpected proposal just as
much as sudden breakup. There are too
many things we can’t predict or control;
that’s one of the reasons we all tend to
develop habits and patterns to live.
 You are walking outside when a hard rain
suddenly begins to fall. Even if you run full
speed, you’re still about five minutes from
your destination. Which of the following best
describes your choice of action?
1. “Id find an awning or tree to stand under and
wait for the rain to stop.”
2. “I don’t know how long it’s going to keep
raining, so I’d run to where I’m going as fast
as I could.”
3. “I’d see if there was anybody around with
an umbrella I could share or a store where I
could buy one.”
4. “I always have a folding umbrella in my
bag when I go out, so I’d just use that.”
 Interpretation
The rain-storm represent unforeseeable
and uncontrollable forces in life.
Specifically, your answer shows how you
tend to react when a fight breaks out
between you and a loved one or friend.
“Id find an awning or tree to stand under
and wait for the rain to stop.”

 You are the type

who waits for the
other side in a
fight to cool off
before trying to
settle your
differences.
 “I don’t know how long it’s going to keep
raining, so I’d run to where I’m going as fast as
I could.”

 You don’t care about

the end result of a fight
so much as getting to
speak your mind.
You’re sure you’re
right, and there’s no
sense in arguing the
point.
“I’d see if there was anybody around with an
umbrella I could share or a store where I could
buy one.”

 You don’t like conflict

and confrontations, so
you try to smooth
things over and calm
the other person down
whenever a fight
breaks out.
“I always have a folding umbrella in my
bag when I go out, so I’d just use that.”

You think you

have an answer to
every accusation, a
justification for
every fault.
 How can understanding
yourself pave the way to
self acceptance and better
relationship with others?

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Activity 1:
SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY
Take a look at your own self-concept and
answer the following self-concept inventory
in your journal.
(Fiangan, R.C. et.al (2016). Personality Development. Wise Ideas
Publishing Co. Baguio City. pp. 04-05)

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 SELF-CONCEPT
Generally used to refer to how
someone thinks above, evaluates
or perceives themselves.

To be aware of oneself is
to have a concept of oneself.
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 “The individual’s belief about
themselves, including the person’s
attributes and who the self is”.

-Baumeister, 1999

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 Imagine yourself
looking into a mirror.

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 What do you see?

Do you see your ideal self

or
your actual self?

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 2 Broad Categories of
Self Concept

1.Ideal self
2.Actual self

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 Ideal-self
The person who we would like
to be.
It is an idealized image that we have
developed over time, based on what we have
learned and experienced.

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 Ideal Self
The ideal self could include
components of what our
parents have taught us, what
we admire in others, what our
society promotes, and what
we think is in our best
interest.
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 Actual Self
Who we actually are.

The ideal self could include components

of what our parents have taught us, what
we admire in others, what our society
promotes, and what we think is in our best
interest.

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 Actual Self
It is built on self-knowledge.

Self-knowledge is derived
from social interactions
that provide insight into
how others react to you.

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 There is negotiation that exists
between the two selves which is
complex because there are numerous
exchanges between the ideal and actual
self.

These exchanges are exemplified in

social roles that are adjusted and re-
adjusted, and are derived from outcomes of
social interactions from infant to adult
development.
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 Alignment is important
If the way that I am (the actual self) is
aligned with the way that I want to be (the
ideal self), then I will feel a sense of
mental well-being or peace of mind.

If the way that I am is not aligned

with how I want to be, the
incongruence, or lack of alignment, will
result in mental
distress or anxiety.
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The greater the level of incongruence
between the ideal self and real self, the
greater the level of resulting distress.

Personal development modules

ultimate aim is greater self-
knowledge that will lead to higher
alignment between these two
personality domains.

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Knowing yourself
is the beginning of
all wisdom.
-Aristotle

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Unjumble
the
jumbled
LSSILK

SLKISL

SKILLS
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ANDETEORTMINI

TDETENRINMAOI

DETERMINATION
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SEPXREIECEN

EXPERIENCES

EXPERIENCES
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LFES-FCOENIENDC

FELS-CODINICEFEN

SELF-CONFIDENCE

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DKNEGOWEL

KEWNELDOG

KNOWLEDGE
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AGINGMAN STERSS

NAMINGGA SRESTS

MANAGING STRESS

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CERSPISTEEN

SISEPTENCER

PERSISTENCE
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TREACAVITY

REACTIVITY

CREATIVITY
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Personal Effectiveness
Personal effectiveness means making use of
all the personal resources – talents, skills,
energy and time, to enable you to achieve
life goals.
Your knowledge of yourself and how you
manage yourself impacts directly on your
personal effectiveness.
Being self-aware, making the most of your
strengths, learning new skills and
techniques and behavioral flexibility
are all keys to improving your personal
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Personal Effectiveness
Our personal effectiveness depends on
our innate characteristics – talent and
experience accumulated in the process of
personal development.

Talents first are needed to be identified

and then developed to be used in a
particular subject area (literature, sports,
politics, etc.). are all keys to improving
your personal performance.

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Personal Effectiveness
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we
acquire in the process of cognitive and practical
activities.
Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining
an action plan to achieve them and risk
assessment.
Skills also determine whether real actions are
performed in accordance with the plan.

If the same ability is used many times

in the same situation, then it becomes a
habit that runs automatically,
subconsciously.
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Skills that will greatly

increase efficiency
1. Determination
2. Self-confidence
3. Persistence
4. Managing stress
5. Problem solving
6. Creativity
7. Generating ideas
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BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND
WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES
Most failures emanate from weaknesses
that are not recognized or probably
recognized but not given appropriate
attention or remedy.

This could be a weakness in communications,

personality or ability.
Instead of giving up or indulging in self-
pity, take action.
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BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND
WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

Instead of simply focusing on your

weaknesses, recognize your own talents
and abilities, build on them, utilize
them to your greatest advantage.
This is where you can build your name
and popularity.
Source: Roldan, Amelia S. 2003. On Becoming a Winner: A Workbook on
Personality Development and Character Building. AR Skills Development
and Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque City, Metro Manila.
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Knowing Oneself