and Boundaries Kristia B. Barrete WHAT IS FAMILY DYNAMICS?
Family dynamics are the patterns of
interactions between family members (roles, hierarchies, and communication between family members). Our family dynamics can significantly impact our mental health in both positive and negative ways. Because of this, it’s important to understand how your own family dynamics have shaped you. Various factors influence our family dynamics, including:
• Family members’ ages
• Family members’ personalities • The relationship between the parents of a family • A parent who is relaxed or strict • An absent parent • Intergenerational homes 6 types of family dynamics 1. Authoritarian One family member is very controlling. They expect others to follow them without negotiation or questioning. 2. Authoritative This also involve rules and consequences, but not in the same way as authoritarian dynamics. One individual sets the rules while validating other family members’ feelings and respecting their opinions. 3. Competitive
There is a sense of rivalry within the household,
as members try to outshine their relatives. 4. Uninvolved
Family members aren’t present to one another,
even when they’re in the same room. There is often a lack of support and guidance. 5. Communal Emphasizes the family as a community in which every member makes a contribution. Individual opinions are respected, and all voices are heard. 6. Alliance-based Alliance-based dynamics lead to members of the family grouping together and playing off each other. Certain family members form alliances in order to gain leverage over other members of the family. They agree to work together for mutual interest. This agreement can be explicit or implied. Examples of healthy family dynamics 1. Open communication
Each member of the family should be encouraged to
speak for themselves, rather than there being one person whose word is the law. 2. Emotional support
Emotional support is when everyone is allowed to
communicate their anxieties, fears, and sorrows. 3. Shared responsibility and authority
Shared responsibility and authority mean one or both parents aren’t
responsible for everything. They also are not the only ones involved in making decisions.
The hallmarks of shared power and responsibility include respect and
inclusivity. It also means creating opportunities for children or other family members to lead. 4. Balance between work and family
A lack of balance between work and family can be a source of
conflict within the family and at work. Greater balance between the two can diminish conflict and lead to healthy relationships in both areas. 5. Expressing interest in each other’s lives
By taking an interest in each other’s lives, family
members make each other feel valued and included. 6. Providing support and discipline to children
The key to this is to be loving, but also to provide a
structure that supports the children’s well-being. 7. Shared respect
Allowing everyone to have a voice is an important
part of family dynamics. In this family culture of mutual respect, constructive conflict is embraced. 8. Creating a safe, loving environment
A safe and loving environment is one in which parents set
good examples, stay positive and display affection. These family dynamics help members nurture relationships and build strong human connections. Boundaries How to step back from toxic family dynamics 1. Setting boundaries in your family relationships
The key to setting boundaries is to be firm but kind. Listen
to what your family members have to say, but seek to take care of yourself. 2. Expressing your concerns
Everyone should be able to express their feelings without
being criticized or interrupted by other members. 3. Practicing self-care According to Laurel Daly, toxic family dynamics can place stress on you in various ways. Toxic family members may ignore your emotions, insult you, or gossip about you.
The negative effect on your self-esteem could lead to you
forgetting about self-care. One element of a self-care plan is taking time out for yourself, so you can do things that make you feel good about yourself. Another element of self-care is to identify and deal with toxic family members. 4. Seeking professional help
Seeking professional help from a counselor or family therapist
can provide you with the support you need to take those first steps. In this sense, seeking family therapy is a form of self- care. 5. Developing your emotional regulation skills
Emotional regulation involves regulating your actions and
responses triggered by emotions. You can develop your skills through self-awareness, mindful breathing, and self- compassion. 6. Determining the root of toxic behavior Identifying toxic behaviors and communicating your concerns about them isn’t enough. You should try to determine the root of those behaviors, too. Some toxic behaviors that affect family dynamics exist because no one sets any boundaries.
Other behaviors may be a result of mental health concerns. Identifying
the root of that behavior could lead to positive changes. Understand your family dynamics.
Understanding past and present family dynamics
is an essential part of personal transformation. Family Patterns What are family patterns?
A characteristic quality of the relationship between
the members of a particular family (e.g., between parents and children). The following are some examples of these patterns: One or both parents have addictions or compulsions (e.g., drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, gambling, overworking, and/or overeating) that have strong influences on family members. One or both parents threaten or use physical violence as the primary means of control. Family patterns of behavior are often handed down from one generation to the next. For example, if our mother cried over little things and was easily stressed, we are more likely to experience the same kind of behavior. On the flipside, if our grandfather modeled how to not stress over little things, we may be more likely to display a high tolerance for stress.
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