IDEAL SELF

VS.
REAL SELF
Presented By : Jeanshame L. Balili
What do you want to become in
life?
When we were young, family members would frequently ask us,
"What do you want to become in life?," but as we got older, our
aspirations tended to lean more toward possibilities that were really
feasible. Though not always, pursuing an ideal objective for living an
ideal life might be deemed successful. One sometimes leads a life of
struggle without fulfillment in an effort to reach that ideal scenario.
Reality is more stressful than the ideal scenario.
Meet Carl
Rogers Died: February 4, 1987 (aged 85)
Born: January 8, 1902, Park, Illinois, U.S.

Nationality: American
Fields Psychology: San Diego, California, U.S.
Alma mater: University of Wisconsin-Madison
Teachers College, Columbia University
Known for: The Person-centered approach (e.g.,
Client-centered therapy, Student-centered learning,
Rogerian argument)
 IDEAL SELF REAL SELF

•This is the person who we •How we see ourselves, which is

would like to be. important to good psychological
health.
•It consists of our goals and
ambitions in life, and is •Real self includes the influence
dynamic - i.e. forever of our body image on inner
changing. personality.
CARL ROGER'S THEORY OF PERSONALITY
AND CONGRUENCE

REAL IDEAL
SELF SELF

CONGRUE
CARL ROGER'S THEORY OF PERSONALITY
AND CONGRUENCE

REAL IDEAL
SELF SELF

INCONGRUENT
 CARL ROGER'S THEORY OF PERSONALITY
AND CONGRUENCE
FIGURE A SHOWS
That incongruence occurs when our ideal
selves do not match or are consistent with
what really occurs in our lives. For instance,
whereas our ideal selves would graduate
from college and become brilliant
engineers, our actual selves would not
bother to pay attention in class.
Incongruence occurs the wider the distance
between the real and ideal selves.
Depression and anxiety may then manifest.
FIGURE B SHOWS
That congruence occurs when an
individual's ideal self is congruent with or
matches what really occurs in their life.
Congruence happens when, for instance,
our real self is practicing discipline itself
while our ideal self wants to become a
great volleyball player. Our self-esteem,
trust, and sense of worth grow when the
real and ideal selves are closely matched.