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Case Example Bowenian Family Therapy
Case Example Bowenian Family Therapy
SESSION 1
• George, 42-year-old Caucasian male, referred by psychiatrist for psychotherapy
on depression and anxiety
• Occupation: Doctorate-level manager in grant-funded educational foundation
• Duration of depression: Two years
• Onset of depression: Linked to promotion to high-pressure, low-autonomy
middle-management position
• Past year: Worked with employee assistance counselor, providing some relief of
depressive symptoms but remaining anxious
• Difficulty not taking on problems of employees
• Marital status: Married for 12 years, happy and secure in marriage
• Children: Two daughters, ages nine and five, doing well, supportive wife
• Recent difficulty maintaining boundary between work and home, bringing stress
home
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SESSION 1
• Often returns to office in evening to work on projects and calm anxiety
• Family history: No anxiety disorder; mother described as unhappy; overinvolved
relationship with mother during childhood; father withdrew to workshop during
teen years, closer relationship with mother
• Siblings: Two younger brothers, ages 34 and 32, all doing well, graduated from
college, in stable relationships
• Negotiating therapeutic contract toward end of first session
• Medication: Antidepressants and benzodiazepine prescribed
• Goal of therapy: Address personality issues to eventually stop medication use
• Previous depressive episode during junior year in college, when moved out of
house
SESSION 2
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SESSION 2
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• Initially stayed at local community college for first two years of college
because not ready to move out; later corrected to staying home because
mother was not ready for him to move out
SESSION 2
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• Therapist suggests neither George nor either of his parents was ready for
him to move out
• George and his wife have chosen different denominations for religious
practices, his mother tries to make him feel guilty for not raising his
daughters in the "right church"
• Talks to both parents at the same time on the phone, indicating a strong
triangle between him and his parents
SESSION 3
• A significant decrease in George’s anxiety was reported in the third session
• Able to stay out of employee conflict, resulting in less stress at work
• Employees resolved conflict themselves when George stayed out of it
• George used self-soothing skills, and talked to himself with a supportive
voice
• The previous critical voice he heard was his mother’s
• Exploration of George’s relationship with his parents in session
• Wrote separate letters to each parent but found them too superficial to send
• Concerned confronting mother would worsen her depression
• Father handles mother’s depression by withdrawing and engaging in
activities outside home
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SESSION 3
• George unable to express anger despite appearing angry; his parents unable
to accept negative feelings from him during his teen years
• George withdrew into music as an expression of feelings
• Discussion on setting boundaries with parents, especially the mother’s
constant advice-giving
• George is anxious and tearful discussing setting boundaries, he feels it would
express ingratitude toward parents
• Therapist suggests writing separate letters to express gratitude and set
boundaries, George agrees but finds it difficult
• George agrees to bring a draft of letters to the next session
• Anxious about talking to just one parent on the phone, open to the idea of
writing separate letters
• Homework assignment: Write separate letters to each parent expressing
gratitude and setting boundaries
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SESSION 4
• George arrives at the session with drafts of letters to each parent
SESSION 4
• Letter to mother longer, discusses abandonment and feelings of
inadequacy from her advice-giving
• Therapist asks what he's afraid of, George fears losing relationship
with parents
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SESSION 4
• Therapist emphasizes healthy relationships allow honest
communication
• George tearful and quiet as session ends, therapist asks him to consider
what it would take to send letters
SESSION 5
• Session held three weeks later after George's work-related travel
• Conflict with wife over expenses related to renovations to living room discussed
• George felt abandoned and unappreciated due to his wife's concern about the project cost
• Started project as a surprise when wife was away, hurt when she raised concerns upon return
• Withdrew from wife for several days, experienced a slight increase in depression and anxiety
• Used medication and positive self-talk to pull out of depressed mood, previously would have
been in bed crying for weeks
• Recognized the similarity of feelings to adolescence when his mother criticized him
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SESSION 5
• Took responsibility for feelings and sought resolution with the wife instead of dwelling on the hurt
• Productive conversation with wife, both took responsibility for emotional reactivity
• George decides to discuss his relationship with his mother in person, the therapist offers to invite her for
the session but George declines
• George feels he can talk to his mother on his own and wants a session to plan a conversation
• Family reunion in three weeks provides an opportunity for discussion with the mother
SESSION 6
• George reports feeling not at all depressed or anxious between sessions
• Attributes newfound ability to not be drawn into conflict at work to feeling good about himself
without immediate approval from staff
• Reports deeper connection with wife, several long talks about future of family and made decisions
based on conversations
• Wife will cut back work to half time to spend more time with children, despite financial burden, feel
good about decision
• Better relationship with daughters, taking separate outings with each to develop better relationship
• Shifted from feeling self-conscious with daughters to feeling more at ease, no longer concerned about
others' opinions
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SESSION 6
• Prepares for talk with mother in last half of session, approaching her from position of love with goal
of closer relationship
• Decides not to approach mother out of anger or seek explanation for past behavior
• Requests to speak with mother alone, without father present, writes her requesting time alone
• Mother responds with phone call inquiring what's wrong, George sets boundary and says he wants to
talk about their relationship
• Mother initially angry but apologizes when George doesn't engage with her anger, looks forward to
talking further
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SESSION 7
• George arrives in good spirits for session, discusses reunion with mother
• Conversation with mother went better than expected
• Mother acknowledged tendency to criticize, discussed struggles with perfectionism and emotional
abandonment by father
• George set limit by telling mother to work out issues with father, mother took responsibility for relationship
with husband
• Agreed to work on being closer, mother agreed to try not to criticize, both expressed concern about mother
falling into old pattern
• If mother criticizes, George agreed to confront her
• Mother expressed desire to be closer to grandchildren, admitted possibly avoiding George due to fear of
criticism
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SESSION 7
• Therapist mostly listens, gives positive feedback to support change in relationship with mother
• George reports no depressive or anxiety symptoms, job still stressful but able to maintain healthy
perspective
• Comfortable taking medication for now, grateful for therapy "coaching"
• Wants to follow up in four weeks for wellness check and possibly work with wife on discussing finances
• Review course of therapy, reinforce positive changes in differentiation and setting boundaries in
relationships
• Offered option to return sooner if needed
• George thanks therapist for help, session ends
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George's therapy journey highlights several key aspects of
his life and relationships: