Communicating

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Objectives
• Know the communication guidelines for
parents;
• Communicate effectively with their
adolescents; and
• Appreciate the importance of
communication on their relationship with
their adolescents.

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Communication must
include. . .
• Giving meaningful praise
• Sharing our feelings
• Talking about what we
believe in
• Genuine and sincere listening

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• Parent’s biggest hurdle in communicating is their
obsession to instruct, nag, instead of talking and
listening to their adolescent.

• Parents should stop treating the adolescent like

a child but instead start a “relationship”, with
the young adult.

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• Parent’s should remember that the media and
internet access can provide endless possibilities
of negative and positive influences in their
adolescent’s lives.

• Communication between parents and children is

important at all ages.

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Communication Guidelines for Parents
1. Find “Teachable Moments”
• Teachable Moments are daily
opportunities that occur
when you are with your
adolescents that make it easy
to share your messages and
values.
• Such moments are better
received by adolescents thus
more effective.
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• The challenge is that you cannot
teach adolescent without a lot of
involvement and creative time spent
with them.

• This is done through a spontaneous,

open and relaxed discussions

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Communication Guidelines for Parents
2. Be “Ask-able”
You are an Ask-able parent if . . .
• They can come to you to ask
questions
• You are able to ask questions
from them
• An ask-able parent is someone
who CLICKS with his/her
adolescent

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 Can be easily approached
Listens and answers questions patiently and accurately
Is willing to keep talking until they are satisfied with the
information/answers

Can admit they do not have all the answers but will try to discover
Knows what an adolescent is able to understand
Stimulates their adolescent to talk, interact and ask questions.

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Being an “ask-able” parent is a skill and an ART
Ask your adolescent what they think about things,
issues, trends or anything they want to talk about.
Recognize that their ideas are different from
yours.
Take time to remind your adolescent that you are
there for them if ever they have question.

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Communication Guidelines for Parents
3. Become aware of the question
behind the question
The unspoken question,
“Am I normal?” is often
hiding questions about
sexual development,
sexual thoughts and
sexual feelings.

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Communication Guidelines for Parents
4. You are the primary sexuality educator of your
adolescents
• Adolescents find it
uncomfortable to discuss
personal or sensitive issues
or concerns affecting them.
• Give them straightforward
advice or feedback on issues
like relationships, sex,
dating, drinking and drugs.

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Communication Guidelines for Parents
5. Remember “it’s OK to feel uncomfortable”
• You can let them
know that you are
uncomfortable,
but you will talk to
them anyway
because you love
them and you
want to help
them.
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Communication Guidelines for Parents
6. Listen, Listen, Listen
• Parents need a lot of
time to spend listening.
• Listen and be sensitive to
what they want to say.
• Listen for feelings.

“EARS” are needed not our ‘MOUTH”

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• Remember that facts are not enough.

- Share your feelings, values and beliefs.

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• Talk about the joys of sexuality.

- Tell your adolescents that loving relationships

are the best part of life and that intimacy is a
wonderful part of adult life.

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• You are telling your adolescent that you care
about their happiness and well-being.

- You are also sharing your values.

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• Know how sexuality is being taught in schools
and in faith communities.
- Find out what your adolescent’s school is
teaching about sexuality.

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 TO MY SONS AND DAUGHTERS
(By: Romeo B. Bonto, Albay)

For all those years I thought you were wrong

and I was always right.

For all those years I thought I was caring and

protective when in truth I was not.

For all those years I thought you were stubborn

and hard headed, when in fact I was the one,
for I never dare to know myself, who really am I.

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 For all those years I thought not of yourself. I
thought not of your seeking for independence as
well, I thought not of your intimacy for friends
and others.

For all those years I only thought of one thing,

my law for you to follow.

For all those years I thought I was right, I

thought I did no wrong. But now I realize and
feel there is a MUST for me to change.

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