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Unit: 2 Family life

• Nguyễn Thị Ái Nhi
• Lê Thị Khắc Hòa
• Trương Thị Diễm Ngân
• Nguyễn Thị Đoan Trang
• Bùi Hiền Nhiên Quỳnh
• Thái Thị Kim Hoa
1. What Foreigners Notice - Nguyễn Thị Ái Nhi

2. The Changing Family - Bùi Hiền Nhiên Quỳnh

- Trương Thị Diễm Ngân

3. Parenting - Lê Thị Khắc Hòa

- Thái Thị Kim Hoa

4. Suggestions for International - Nguyễn Thị Đoan Trang

Visitors
Family life - When Americans use the word family, they
are typically referring
to a father, a mother, and their children.
- Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and
others who might
be thought of as family in many other
countries are usually called relatives.

These usages reflect the fact that, for

most Americans, the family has tradi-
tionally been a small group of people,
not an extended network.
 We should keep - regional, social-class, and religious
three things in mind differences are associated with general
when reading this differences in family life.
chapter’s
generalizations - Among individual families the variations
about family life. are infinite

- Key aspects of family life in the United

States are undergoing significant changes.
I. What Foreigners Notice: Many international visitors have opportunities to visit
American families
and to observe their surroundings and interactions
firsthand.
about American family life, particularly aspects
involving the treatment
of children:
• Babies are less often carried against their parents’ bodies
than they are carried in backpacks or pushed about in
strollers. (And strollers can sometimes reach a fearsome
size. One writer said the larger strollers, with their sturdy
wheels and solid construction, reminded him of the armored
personnel carriers in which he had ridden as a soldier.)

• While children in public are more often accompanied by

mothers than by fathers, it is increasingly common to see a man
caring for children in a public place. Men’s rest rooms are
nearly as likely as women’s to be outfitted with a diaper-
changing table. “Househusbands” or “stay-athome dads”—
fathers who tend to the house and the children while the wife
earns the family income—are increasingly common.
 • Young children, like the boy in the Orange Julius line,
will be asked for their opinions and will express
opinions even without being asked

• Children of any age may interrupt their parents, argue

with them, make demands of them, or loudly express their
disapproval of parental decisions they dislike.

• Children sometimes seem entirely out of their parents’

control.

• Groups of teenagers, dressed nearly alike and with

similar hairdos, jewelry, and in many cases tattoos, are
conspicuous in shopping malls everywhere. Their
parents are nowhere around.
Visitors from abroad who have visited American homes often remark on these
matters:
• Typical American houses or apartments seem larger
than necessary

• Most if not all interior doors remain open.

• Babies have their own beds (called cribs) and do not

routinely sleep with their parents

• If the family can afford it, children have their own

bedrooms, whatever their age
• Children have many, many multicolored toys

• If the children are more than a few years old, a schedule of

family activities such as music lessons or sports practices
may be posted in a conspicuous place (often on the
refrigerator) where family members can readily see it and add
items to it

• The man of the house (if there is one) may be

responsible for—or share responsibility for—
childcare, cooking, washing clothes, or doing
other household chores.
• Electric appliances and electronic entertainment
devices (large-screen televisions connected to elaborate
speaker systems, DVD players and recorders, CD
players, computers with games, camcorders, etc.) are
much in evidence. A house or an apartment may have
several telephones and television sets and stereophonic
sound throughout.
THE
CHANGING
FAMILY
 During the Since 1950s
1950s *Alternative families:
*Traditional families: - Single-parent families
- a husband, wife, and their two or ( containing only one parent-
more children usually a woman- and one or
more
CHỦchildren)
NGHĨA HIỆN THỰC
- Unmarried couples living
together
CHỦ NGHĨA HIỆN THỰC XÃ HỘI
- Unmarried women having Increase
AMERICAN GOTHIC
children
- Blend families
VÍ DỤ TÁC PHẨM
- Grand-parents NGHỆ THUẬT KHÁC
headed
household
TÓM TẮT
- Gay or lesbian couple
- People living alone
HOẠT ĐỘNG ĐẾN LƯỢT CỦA BẠN!
Some studies
indicate that

According to the Center for

Disease Control and Prevention,
In 2008, according to a the 2009 marriage rate was 7.1
Pew Research Center
study(2008b), 41% of per 1.000 people, the lowest since
children were born to 1932. The divorce rate in 2009
unmarried women was 3.5 per 1.000 people, down
from 4.7 in 1980
American family
changes in the American family to a variety of
factors

Following on the
"women's movement,"
women began entering
careers outside the
traditional areas of
teaching, nursing, and
being a secretary.
changes in the American family to a variety of
factors

More and more women are

going to college, so much so Difficult economic times have often
required both parents to earn
that women now earn more
enough income to support a family,
doctoral degrees than men. In
and have compelled many young
the process women are
people to remain in their parents'
preparing themselves for home beyond age 18 or to return to
financial independence from it after leaving.
any future hus band and
delaying marriage and
childbirth.
changes in the American family to a variety of
factors

The stigma attached to

divorce, cohabitation (that is,
unmarried couples living
together), and homosexuality
has diminished but not
vanished.
changes in the American family to a variety of
factors
All these changes in living
arrangements and family
structure seem to reflect and
reinforce cultural values that
emphasize individualism and
freedom. American society
generally accepts the idea that
young people of both genders
need to "find themselves" and
“develop their potential."
The journey to find one's true self may entail
delaying or forgoing marriage and its
entanglements; delaying or forgoing parenthood
and its responsibilities; divorcing a spouse from
whom one has "grown apart," and living life in a
way that responds to personal situations and
convenience rather than to dictates of the
traditional norms. When they decide what living
arrange ments they prefer, Americans are "doing
their own thing."
changes in the American family to a variety of
factors

These shifts in family

structure and composition
entail shifts in the traditional
male-female division of
labor, as has already been
suggested.
 Parenting

 Parental hope and

expectations
 Child-centeredness
 Punishing children
 Preparing children
for adulthood.
 Parental Hopes and Expectations
In some societies, raising
children is highly valued.
The media regularly reports on
studies that estimate the cost of
raising children in the United
States.
For educated couples, the ideal is
probably a planned family, with
one or two children conceived
intentionally rather than
randomly.
 Parental Hopes and Expectations

For educated couples, the ideal is

probably a planned family, with one
or two children conceived
intentionally rather than randomly.
With the recession, many parents
began to doubt whether their
children could really thrive in the
future.
Public schools in the United States
tend to be less demanding than
schools in many other countries.
 Child - Centeredness
They play with young children.
They buy things that children want.
Children often have their own
bedrooms and increasingly have
their own computers, cell phones,
and televisions.
As parents become less important in
the lives of their growing children,
their peer groups become more
influential.
 Punishing Children
* Historically :

- corporal punishment (such as

spanking or slapping)
- time-outs
- grounding
- withholding privileges
 Punishing Children
* In recent years :

- positive guidance
giving the child positive reinforcement
Example: an American parent might
say, “I see that you are really angry at
Mark for taking your toy, but you may
not hit him.”
 Punishing Children
* In recent years :

- positive redirection

When dealing with a child who has

just marked on the walls, a parent
might tell the child, “Here is some
paper to write on. Walls are not for
writing on.”
 Punishing Children
* Historically :

- corporal punishment (such as

spanking or slapping)
- time-outs
- grounding
- withholding privileges
 Punishing Children
* In recent years :

- positive guidance
giving the child positive reinforcement
Example: an American parent might
say, “I see that you are really angry at
Mark for taking your toy, but you may
not hit him.”
 Punishing Children
* In recent years :

- positive redirection

When dealing with a child who has

just marked on the walls, a parent
might tell the child, “Here is some
paper to write on. Walls are not for
writing on.”
 Punishing Children
* In recent years :

- “time-out”

During a time-out, children who are

misbehaving are required to sit, often
in another room, until they can behave
properly again.
 Punishing Children
- adults other than the child’s parents
as other relatives, neighbors, or adults
who simply happen to be present—
may not intervene to discourage a but would not administer any
child from misbehaving. punishment and Punishing is usually
left to parents or, in some cases, to a
- There are a couple of exceptions: an school or other official institution
unrelated adult might intervene when
a child is doing something that seems
physically dangerous and an adult
might intervene when one child is
mistreating another.
 Preparing Children for Adulthood

Preparing children for adulthood in

America involves equipping them
with the skills, knowledge, and values
they need to navigate the challenges
and opportunities of life as
independent individuals.
 Preparing Children for Adulthood

American teenagers earn their own

money for entertainment, clothes, a
car or to save at least part of their
income for college expenses
 Preparing Children for Adulthood

the children are ready to move
out of the parents’ house by the
age of 18—that is, when they
have completed secondary
school. They may “go to
college” or they may seek a job.
They might stay with their parents for
another year or two after graduating
from high school, but after that they
are expected to be “on their own.”
 Preparing Children for Adulthood

Ideals about independence and self-sufficiency

are so deeply imbued in most Americans that a
situation of enforced dependency can be
extremely uncomfortable for both the elderly
parents and the children.
 Suggestions for International Visitors

Family life opportunities in the cities

where they are studying. Community
organizations at some colleges and
universities identify families who want
one Organize dinners for international
students or other social activities
 Suggestions for International Visitors
• Nonstudents may find it more difficult to be invited into an American’s
home
• Host may also provide housing or opportunities to practice English.
• Join a church, volunteer or service organization organization is a
potential avenue for invitation into Americans' homes.
• Parents abroad with young children may want to read the book Or
search the Internet to get more ideas about common beliefs about
children nourishment and health care and become familiar with
vocabulary about used by teachers, pediatricians and other parents.
 Suggestions for International Visitors

In short, the lifestyles of Chinese-American families are very different.

International visitors enjoy learning about family life in America. States
should try to get to know some of the families.
 RUNG CHUÔNG VÀNG
Choose the correct answer A, B, C OR D

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 Question: 1
What should we keep in mind when reading
about family life?

A. 2 B. 3

C.4
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 Question: 2
How do parents in the United States raise their
children before the age of 18?

A. fear that the child is in B. fear that the child is in

danger, the child is sick, danger, the child is sick,
protect the child protect the child

C. fear that the child is in

danger, the child is sick,
protect the child
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 Question: 3
What do parents in America with young
children want them to do?

A. Playing game B. Liítening to music

C. A, B are all
correct.
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 Question: 4
What factors have changed in the American
family?
B. Traditional occupations
A. Women are for women in America are
financially teaching, nursing, and
independent secretarial work

C. The above two

ideas are both
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correct.
correct

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