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UNIT 4 Skills in Counselling
UNIT 4 Skills in Counselling
UNIT 4 Skills in Counselling
COUNSELLING
CONTENTS
• ATTENDING BEHAVIOR
• OBSERVATIONAL SKILLS
• SKILLS OF ACTIVE LISTENING
• REFLECTIVE SKILLS
• INTEGRATIVE SKILLS
• INFLUENCING SKILLS
• CAPACITY FORMING SKILLS
• ELICITNG AND REFLECTING SKILLS
• When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you,
without taking responsibility for you, without trying to mould you, it
feels good. When I have been listened to, when I have been heard, I
am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and go on. It is
astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when
someone listens. How confusions that seem irremediable become
relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard. —Carl Rogers
Attending Behavior
ATTENDING BEHAVIOR/ SKILLS
• S – S stands for sitting squarely. So you sit and face the person that you are talking to. We
should sit attentively at an angle to the person, so that we can look at them directly and
show that we are listening to them and paying attention to them.
• O – O stands for having an open posture. Do not cross your arms as this can make us
appear anxious or defensive.
• L – Lean forwards to show we are interested in what the person is talking about. It also
means that the person can lower their voice if they wish to, if they are talking about
personal issues, for example.
• E – E stands for eye contact. Maintaining eye contact again shows that we are interested
and listening to what the person has to say. It doesn't mean stare at the person as this
can make them feel uncomfortable, but maintain good, positive eye contact.
• R – R stands for relaxed body language. This shows the person that you are not in a rush
to get away, but are letting them talk at their own pace.
Listening Skills
Basic Listening Sequence
• The basic listening sequence (BLS) will enable you to elicit
empathically the major thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of the client.
Through the use of questions, encouragers, paraphrases, reflection
of feelings, and summaries, you will draw out and understand the
way clients see their issues.
• Listening lights up the brain; the basic listening sequence facilitates
organization and the potential for a creative new integration.
A. QUESTIONS
• Questions help a session begin and move along smoothly. They assist
in pinpointing and clarifying issues, open up new areas for discussion,
and aid in clients’ self-exploration.
• Exercise: How do you feel when you are questioned? Do you feel
threatened? Do you feel free?
• Questions reduce talk time (of the therapist) – a client who stopped
going to a therapist as the therapist spoke volumes on the harms of
cutting)
• Client’s risky behavior with men – questions only to clarify what she
went through at that time
1. Open questions
• Open questions are those that can’t be answered in a few words.
They tend to facilitate deeper exploration of client issues. They
encourage others to talk and provide you with maximum information.
Typically, open questions begin with what, how, why, or could/
would.
• For example, “Could you tell me what brings you here today?”
2. Closed questions
• Closed questions enable you to obtain specifics and can usually be
answered in very few words. They may provide useful information,
but the burden of guiding the talk remains on the counsellor. Closed
questions often begin with is, are, or do. For example, “Are you living
with your family?”
What are the USES of Questions?
• Through observation you get to know the client and what is conveyed
by his or her verbal and nonverbal behavior. Clients’ intentions,
needs, meanings, and underlying emotions are often conveyed not
only with words, but also through nonverbals.
How keen is your observation - video
• In counselling, you may be so focused on a single issue you note in
the client that you are missing the underlying meanings.
• Don’t be too quick to identify….you may miss other cues. Example..
College example, girl with puncture marks
1. Nonverbal Behaviour