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Chapter Topics: Why We Form Relationships Relational Development and Maintenance Communicating About Relationships
Chapter Topics: Why We Form Relationships Relational Development and Maintenance Communicating About Relationships
Why We Form Relationships Relational Development and Maintenance Communicating about Relationships
Appearance
We like people who are similar to us Friendships are more likely to last when friends
Complementarily
are complementary
Each partners characteristics satisfy the others needs
Reciprocal
Attraction
We like people who like us usually People who approve of us, bolster our self-
esteem
Competence
Proximity
Social Exchange Theory Relationships that give us rewards greater than or equal to the costs of the relationship
Models
of Relational Development
Knapps
Initiating Communication during this stage is usually brief Simplistic communication is a way of signaling you may want to begin a relationship Experimenting After initial contact we decide if we with to pursue the relationship further Uncertainty reduction
Getting to know others by gaining more information
Knapps
Intensifying The interpersonal relationship begins to develop The expression of feeling becomes more common Giving tokens of affection, hinting and flirting Integrating Parties begin to take on identity as a social unit Partners begin to take on each others commitments Close friends may begin to speak alike
Knapps
Bonding Parties make symbolic public gestures Commitment is increased during this stage Being together comes to be relied on Differentiating The We orientation shifts back to I The stage is likely to occur when the relationship experiences its first feelings of stress
Knapps
Circumscribing Partners behave towards each other in old, familiar ways Communication decreases in quantity and quality Shrinking of interest and commitment Stagnating No growth occurs The relationship is a hollow shell of its former self
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Knapps
Avoiding Parties begin to create physical distance between each other Unsuccessful couples deal with their problems by avoidance, indirectness and less involvement Terminating Includes summary dialogue Depending on each persons feelings, this stage can be quite short or drawn out over time
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Models
of Relational Development
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Models
of Relational Development
Dialectical Perspectives Communicators seek important but inherently incompatible goals through their relationship Dialectical Tensions Conflicts that arise when two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously Managing dialectical tensions can create the most powerful dynamic in relational communication
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Models
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Models
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Models
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Models
Disorientation
Communicators feel so overwhelmed and helpless they are unable to confront their problems
Alternation
Alternating between extremes on the spectrum
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Models
Balance
Communicators try to balance dialectical tensions
Integration
Simultaneously accept opposing forces without trying to diminish them
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Models
Reaffirmation
This strategy acknowledges that dialectical tensions will never disappear
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Characteristics
of Relationships
Relationships: Are constantly changing Are affected by culture Require Maintenance Require Commitment
Relation commitment involves a promise sometimes implied and sometimes explicit to remain in the relationship and make it successful
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Repairing
Damaged Relationships
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Repairing
Damaged Relationships
An apology requires three elements: An acknowledgment that the transgression was wrong: I acted like a jerk. A sincere apology: Im really sorry. I feel awful for letting you down. Some type of compensation: If I act that way again, you can call me on it.
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Content
Content Messages The subject being discussed Relational Messages How the parties feel toward one another Types of Relational Messages Affinity Immediacy Respect Control
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Metacommunication
nonverbally, about their relationship Communication about communication Can be used as a way to reinforce the satisfying aspects of a relationship
I really appreciate it when you complement me about my work in front of the boss.
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Why
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